It's okay to cry. If you are a visual person, sometimes it helps to draw a mind map. You can start with the problem or the solution or both, and work outwards from that on possible solutions or possible causes of the problem.
In my estimation, college is largely about shaping and preparing young minds for skilled and highly professional work. That's about it. The difficult part is that, humans are also animals. And mammals tend to be social creatures that are both territorial and hierarchical.
A lot of people recommend the book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People." While others, it seems, choose to focus their energy on skillfully avoiding the unpleasantness that comes with many, if not all, social encounters, to varying degrees and measures.
Sometimes it helps to step back from a problem, when the tears have dried, or when the weather is calmer, and really study the problem. And perhaps, it's not even necessary to study the problem, so as to find a solution. You can study the problem without the intent being to find a solution; study it just to learn about it.
And patience can often be a great virtue. Every journey begins with a simple step; along the way, there can be big steps, small steps, leaps, crawls, walks, runs, and even falls and missteps, but they are all part of the journey.
