jean-vic said:
This thread has probably been done to death, but I thought I'd ask anyway.
Now, I'm not great at reading people so I can't tell what girls are thinking, and I don't want to approach one with misread info and humiliate myself, so I thought I'd ask what things to look for to tell if a girl is interested.
Any tell-tale signs?
Everyone'll say it's these basic things:
- She looks at you a lot, perhaps smiles when doing so
- She shifts her body position to focus on you when talking to her
- She holds eye contact for a long or overly excessive time
- She'll look for reasons to brush against or past you
- She might do stuff like sneakily lean against you or "play punch" you when you're chatting
- She'll focus on you when you're in a group with her
- She'll try to chat with you where possible (unless she's really shy, in which case she probably won't >_< )
Unfortunately, while the above are all true, I really recommend you look at any girl flirting with you with some deep logical thought before you pursue anything. Some girls flirt like crazy just because they seem to enjoy it, not because it means anything.
I had this one girl who was really cuddling up to me and stuff, turned out she wasn't interested and was instead horribly confused with her emotions, but I got burned a bit before I found that out.
And at present, I have a girl doing most of the above with me, especially the staring, but I still have no bloody clue if she really likes me or not. So I can understand the "hard to read" thing.
I think a girl who truly likes you makes it far more apparent after a while, or so the myths go. I've not yet found that out for myself, I just seem to attract the ladies that can't work out whether their flirting has a purpose
And Pie, yes, I must admit I chuckled. I think once girls start doing that you will already know that they're friendly for quite some time beforehand