BlackCat
Well-known member
Title says it all. This will explain how I got over my loneliness and depression, and also may explain to those of you that remember me why I'm inactive.
So anyways. Being in the chat on this website helped a good bit for starters. I got to talk to people that I could relate to, and I could get a distraction from everything in my life. I'd suggest you do the same. That lessened the lonely feelings. Eventually the forum became dull to me, I didn't see any threads worth posting in, I'd put my input in and helped, so I was bored. The chat was the main thing keeping me around. So go into the chat if you're lonely!
Then eventually I got to introspection. I realized... Depression is an illusion. A mind state. I thought about it and thought about it until I realized that it was ridiculous to feel that way, and then I tried to conquer it by counter acting it. Exercise was the main thing that helped me, it actually chemically helps your depression. Also I became more social, I would talk to more people online and in real life (this was easier for me than it will be for others since I'm still in school). This helped me break the pattern. Eventually I stopped feeling it altogether.
As for the loneliness? Well when I felt lonely I would go into chat. When I quit going here I found another website about a personality theory I was interested in, it was almost like a social network. Everyone was nice, and since the website was based on a personality theory people were there to understand you and others. I loved the community, I made a lot of friends, and the forums were very active. This broke some of my loneliness. Then I started to get in their chat room, which used a program called "Ventrilo", which is primarily a voice chat but also has a text chat. This was a lot more personable, and when I started to get to know more people personally my feelings of loneliness fully vanished. This along with being more sociable in real life broke those feelings for me.
Another thing I did to fight the loneliness was I embraced the fact that I'm an introvert. I would do things that I enjoyed alone, which included reading books, researching on the internet, playing video games, drawing, writing etc. I realized I could enjoy myself and not be around people.
I don't know about you people, but all I need real life socializing for is to release the energy I gain while being alone. I'll start to go crazy if I don't do something in the real world or outside of my house. I socialize with friends maybe once a week, and I'm fine doing other things alone. But this is probably due to the fact that I'm introverted.
So with self determination to conquer my depression, plenty of distractions and talking to people, embracing my hobbies and socializing I broke my depression and loneliness. You can do it too.
Here is my suggestion for this site... Get a ventrilo server! Lonely people actually TALKING to other lonely people is much much better than just text chat alone. It's more personable, you don't feel as lonely when you're talking to people, you get to know how it feels to be around the people, etc. So get to getting a ventrilo server! That's my suggestion. To grab a server for this website someone has to go to www.ventrilo.com to get a client, I've never hosted one so I'm not sure if it's free or if there is a small fee. I'm pretty sure there is a small fee.
PS: If anyone I know is still around, please email me. I love talking to people online.
So anyways. Being in the chat on this website helped a good bit for starters. I got to talk to people that I could relate to, and I could get a distraction from everything in my life. I'd suggest you do the same. That lessened the lonely feelings. Eventually the forum became dull to me, I didn't see any threads worth posting in, I'd put my input in and helped, so I was bored. The chat was the main thing keeping me around. So go into the chat if you're lonely!
Then eventually I got to introspection. I realized... Depression is an illusion. A mind state. I thought about it and thought about it until I realized that it was ridiculous to feel that way, and then I tried to conquer it by counter acting it. Exercise was the main thing that helped me, it actually chemically helps your depression. Also I became more social, I would talk to more people online and in real life (this was easier for me than it will be for others since I'm still in school). This helped me break the pattern. Eventually I stopped feeling it altogether.
As for the loneliness? Well when I felt lonely I would go into chat. When I quit going here I found another website about a personality theory I was interested in, it was almost like a social network. Everyone was nice, and since the website was based on a personality theory people were there to understand you and others. I loved the community, I made a lot of friends, and the forums were very active. This broke some of my loneliness. Then I started to get in their chat room, which used a program called "Ventrilo", which is primarily a voice chat but also has a text chat. This was a lot more personable, and when I started to get to know more people personally my feelings of loneliness fully vanished. This along with being more sociable in real life broke those feelings for me.
Another thing I did to fight the loneliness was I embraced the fact that I'm an introvert. I would do things that I enjoyed alone, which included reading books, researching on the internet, playing video games, drawing, writing etc. I realized I could enjoy myself and not be around people.
I don't know about you people, but all I need real life socializing for is to release the energy I gain while being alone. I'll start to go crazy if I don't do something in the real world or outside of my house. I socialize with friends maybe once a week, and I'm fine doing other things alone. But this is probably due to the fact that I'm introverted.
So with self determination to conquer my depression, plenty of distractions and talking to people, embracing my hobbies and socializing I broke my depression and loneliness. You can do it too.
Here is my suggestion for this site... Get a ventrilo server! Lonely people actually TALKING to other lonely people is much much better than just text chat alone. It's more personable, you don't feel as lonely when you're talking to people, you get to know how it feels to be around the people, etc. So get to getting a ventrilo server! That's my suggestion. To grab a server for this website someone has to go to www.ventrilo.com to get a client, I've never hosted one so I'm not sure if it's free or if there is a small fee. I'm pretty sure there is a small fee.
PS: If anyone I know is still around, please email me. I love talking to people online.