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focused said:
25 and still a virgin.

Has anyone here considered using adult escorts to have sex with a woman? There's stunning looking woman who are escorts and look literally like supermodels and the prices seem quite reasonable. Some services also provide outcalls so the escort will goto your home.

I know there is no guarantee of sex as they aren't prostitutes but the chances are high. A big problem is obviously lack of social skills as a lot of meet will involve conversation, i don't know if i could handle it but i might push myself to do it. After all, they aren't there to judge you as your paying for their company.

Meeting the special someone who you love then losing your virginity is the best way but as we all know it's damned differcult when you have no social network or social confidence and we're all getting older and having no fun :(

If you want to see a prostitute do not let society tell you it is not right. I have seen many prostitutes and I have always had a good experience. Escort services are expensive and often only offer "massages" if you get my drift. Look online for a service that is obviously a prostitution ring and dont pay more than 150$
 
eris said:
focused said:
25 and still a virgin.

Has anyone here considered using adult escorts to have sex with a woman? There's stunning looking woman who are escorts and look literally like supermodels and the prices seem quite reasonable. Some services also provide outcalls so the escort will goto your home.

I know there is no guarantee of sex as they aren't prostitutes but the chances are high. A big problem is obviously lack of social skills as a lot of meet will involve conversation, i don't know if i could handle it but i might push myself to do it. After all, they aren't there to judge you as your paying for their company.

Meeting the special someone who you love then losing your virginity is the best way but as we all know it's damned differcult when you have no social network or social confidence and we're all getting older and having no fun :(

If you want to see a prostitute do not let society tell you it is not right. I have seen many prostitutes and I have always had a good experience. Escort services are expensive and often only offer "massages" if you get my drift. Look online for a service that is obviously a prostitution ring and dont pay more than 150$



Okay, it says in your profile you're a female. So did you see a man-whore or a female prostitute?

If you saw a female one, please tell us our friend focused about this experience. He needs everything told in vivid detail so he can make the most of his experience.

Also tell me about your experience with a female prostitute. My therapist, Vinnie the Wise Ass, says learning about a woman seeing a woman prostitute is very therapeutic.
 
njlonelydude said:
Okay, it says in your profile you're a female. So did you see a man-whore or a female prostitute?

If you saw a female one, please tell us our friend focused about this experience. He needs everything told in vivid detail so he can make the most of his experience.

Also tell me about your experience with a female prostitute. My therapist, Vinnie the Wise Ass, says learning about a woman seeing a woman prostitute is very therapeutic.


I have not seen one in 4 years, but I have seen...many. Weekly. Female prostitutes only. Women do not need to pay men for sex. They are willing to do it for free I had ssex with men I knew sometimes

I lived in a big city, and I used craigslist. Women offer services, I offer money and business is handled :) Sometimes it was for sex but usually other times I paid them to do things. I usually paid 100$ but sometimes slightly more and a few of them can be cheaper.

They are nice, friendly - avoid eye contact. I never really had much to say to any of them.

it was not a negative experience.

thats as vivid as the detals are going to get
 
eris said:
njlonelydude said:
Okay, it says in your profile you're a female. So did you see a man-whore or a female prostitute?

If you saw a female one, please tell us our friend focused about this experience. He needs everything told in vivid detail so he can make the most of his experience.

Also tell me about your experience with a female prostitute. My therapist, Vinnie the Wise Ass, says learning about a woman seeing a woman prostitute is very therapeutic.


I have not seen one in 4 years, but I have seen...many. Weekly. Female prostitutes only. Women do not need to pay men for sex. They are willing to do it for free I had ssex with men I knew sometimes

I lived in a big city, and I used craigslist. Women offer services, I offer money and business is handled :) Sometimes it was for sex but usually other times I paid them to do things. I usually paid 100$ but sometimes slightly more and a few of them can be cheaper.

They are nice, friendly - avoid eye contact. I never really had much to say to any of them.

it was not a negative experience.

thats as vivid as the detals are going to get

Dammit, I figured I might as well try, LOL!
 
lol. ok


i am a firm believer that if one wants to have meaningless sex it is everywhere, just waiting to be had. Dont be shy - go get it. If you see someone in an adult bookstore leave a note on their windshield. I used to go to this adult store and it is a great place :) I even TALKED to some of those people. REALLY ! And I talked to no one !! i helped one young lady get a kitten. I still go there sometime but I am off of the market so I am only a customer now, but I know the staff really well and I guess I could call them friends. that is probably the only place in the whole world I wouldnt mind working at...but the adult scene is not scary. just dont be afraid. If there is an adult store near a truck stop, that would really be the place to go. good luck. oh, and sometimes prostitutes hang out near such places, but many of them are not biological women, so , be careful... :)


a meaningful and loving relationship, on the other hand. is elusive; and it is easy to grow weary of waiting so long...
 
eris said:
lol. ok


i am a firm believer that if one wants to have meaningless sex it is everywhere, just waiting to be had. Dont be shy - go get it. If you see someone in an adult bookstore leave a note on their windshield. I used to go to this adult store and it is a great place :) I even TALKED to some of those people. REALLY ! And I talked to no one !! i helped one young lady get a kitten. I still go there sometime but I am off of the market so I am only a customer now, but I know the staff really well and I guess I could call them friends. that is probably the only place in the whole world I wouldnt mind working at...but the adult scene is not scary. just dont be afraid. If there is an adult store near a truck stop, that would really be the place to go. good luck. oh, and sometimes prostitutes hang out near such places, but many of them are not biological women, so , be careful... :)


a meaningful and loving relationship, on the other hand. is elusive; and it is easy to grow weary of waiting so long...

One like myself just cannot resort to meaningless sex. It's not in me at all to do that. I need love or sex means nothing.
 
yes. i understand. this is how most people feel. I longed for love seperatly, as a seperate want - for many people they are the same and I envy these people. Sex and love are 2 seperate issues for me.

I do not mean to offend anyone, just to say "do not be ashamed of your wants and take what you need"

:)
 
eris said:
yes. i understand. this is how most people feel. I longed for love seperatly, as a seperate want - for many people they are the same and I envy these people. Sex and love are 2 seperate issues for me.

I do not mean to offend anyone, just to say "do not be ashamed of your wants and take what you need"

:)

Yes some people, like me for example, see love and sex as something that should go hand in hand. I am a virgin, its funny though because if i was basically offered sex and the lady was attractive i would likely say yes actually but you see i would never go looking for sex as i would prefer it to be meaningful.
 
Well, being offered sex by an attractive lady should not sway your prefference for meaningful sex. I think that you should do what you want, and I respect your opinion, but if you dont want pointless sex then when being offered, it should be something you turn down. Whatever you decide to do , it will mean whatever you want it to mean.

My first time was dissapointing and too soon. He sure was pretty, though. I mean he was really REALLY attractive. Way out of my league. I shouldnt have let that sway me, but it did, and now I will always remember my first time was with a gorgeous fool that thought meat came from trees.

fickle fickle fickle I am.
 
How many people over 20 are still virgins?
->add me
if there is a similar thread where age is 40+ add me again.

I am 24 now...I met a gal 3 years ago...she was my gf for 3 months.
I loved/love her...it ended bad.
long story but after it ended, for 3 years(and still going)
I have had no social and personal relationship of any kind.
no/void/NULL friends...not much contact with parents...nothing.

its not like I need to put lots of effort...I just don't have any desire.
its like no desire to even desire.
yet I don't show symptoms of depression.

my brain has gotten in a mode where I will not do anything unless there is an obligation.
eg. I finished my degree coz my parents had already paid $.
I am working now coz I hav an obligation of paying parents back.
I did not go to graduation ceremony coz there was no obligation. etc etc

even after 3 years...I cannot feel anything for any other women.
it might sound cliche when I say this...but anthropologist could review my life,
and add another cause to "y ppl are asexual"

PS: I googled: "how many percentage ppl die virgins" to reach here..and what made me post is still a mystery..I am usually a lurker.
 
"Yeah. That's bullshit.

I've smiled at plenty of people in the grocery store yet, lo and behold, NEVER ended up banging some guy in the frozen foods aisle"


PAHAHAHHA.

Win.
 
PurpleDays said:
"Yeah. That's bullshit.

I've smiled at plenty of people in the grocery store yet, lo and behold, NEVER ended up banging some guy in the frozen foods aisle"


PAHAHAHHA.

Win.

Hahaha.... Win indeed.
 
On the prostitution thing I think it depends n the person and why. Like I admire what eris is saying but it isn't right for me. I've known 1 person that had sex with a prositute in amsterdam to lose his virginity and another who got desperate, neither enjoyed it. But I know another person with a really high sex drive who happily spent most of his time there between brothels and loved every minute of it.
Think maybe it depends if you can enjoy the feelings of sex and not need the other person to be into you. (Even though they might be)
 
"I'm a virgin who makes exceptions at sunset." -SF

hah! I wish...

my grandfather got married at 25. my dad got married at 24. i'm gonna be 25 sometime soon, and i'm still so fresh it hurts.
 
I've had sex a few dozen times, always with prostitutes. I've never had sex in a relationship. The one longest relationship I was in, about 3 months, did not lead to sex although I very much wanted it to. I'm close to just giving up on trying to find someone else altogether and just continue going to see a professional every other month.
 
I'm a 26 year old virgin male and I only really started to care directly about the issue specifically recently.

I've always been so incredibly shy that I simply just avoided girls/women and everyone generally. I blush so badly at the slightest praise from the opposite sex and I essentially have parkinson's if they actually touch me. I washed it all away with anger, alcohol, food, and drugs. It took the fact that I basically knew, flat out, if this continued I would be dead. Not in some great time, basically now. If I didn't quit what I was doing I do not believe I would have had to make this post at 27.

Everyone has problems and tribulations but everyone I've ever met had enough sense of self, enough desire to rid oneself of every day drudgery, that they danced our little dances and, well, at least for my team, grew a ******* pair. I am so outrageously upset for being such a chicken honeysuckle pussy that I hardly feel I even deserve a girlfriend. The cycle continues unabated.

Just the mere thought of intense emotions.
The mere thought of being touched with desire; I can feel my insides reeling as if some kind of open festered indigestion has occurred.
The velvet touch: ba-dum... ba-dum... ba-dum... badumbadumbadumbadumbadumbadum....., "just, just don't, no."
Please don't go. I'm so sickeningly lonely and it's not my fault.
It's not my fault.
"I need you to be a man"
I need you to be human.
It's not my fault.

I only finally forgave those young women recently.
They wanted a good time, not an episode of criminal minds.

I'm in the process of forgiving myself.


To you older virgins who do not care I would consider you the true hitchhikers of the galaxy. How amazingly serendipitous to be born with both dots, an entire human being, a complete picture.
Lucky, you. Something I would imagine you are not used to hearing.
 
burndownmyhouse said:
I'm a 26 year old virgin male and I only really started to care directly about the issue specifically recently.

I've always been so incredibly shy that I simply just avoided girls/women and everyone generally. I blush so badly at the slightest praise from the opposite sex and I essentially have parkinson's if they actually touch me. I washed it all away with anger, alcohol, food, and drugs. It took the fact that I basically knew, flat out, if this continued I would be dead. Not in some great time, basically now. If I didn't quit what I was doing I do not believe I would have had to make this post at 27.

Everyone has problems and tribulations but everyone I've ever met had enough sense of self, enough desire to rid oneself of every day drudgery, that they danced our little dances and, well, at least for my team, grew a ******* pair. I am so outrageously upset for being such a chicken honeysuckle pussy that I hardly feel I even deserve a girlfriend. The cycle continues unabated.

Just the mere thought of intense emotions.
The mere thought of being touched with desire; I can feel my insides reeling as if some kind of open festered indigestion has occurred.
The velvet touch: ba-dum... ba-dum... ba-dum... badumbadumbadumbadumbadumbadum....., "just, just don't, no."
Please don't go. I'm so sickeningly lonely and it's not my fault.
It's not my fault.
"I need you to be a man"
I need you to be human.
It's not my fault.

I only finally forgave those young women recently.
They wanted a good time, not an episode of criminal minds.

I'm in the process of forgiving myself.


To you older virgins who do not care I would consider you the true hitchhikers of the galaxy. How amazingly serendipitous to be born with both dots, an entire human being, a complete picture.
Lucky, you. Something I would imagine you are not used to hearing.

I'll never understand why some people expect there to be no fear or nervousness when engaging physically (in any way) with the opposite sex. For fresia's sake, that's HALF THE FUN. Being topsy-turvy and nervous and making mistakes and being AFFECTED by the opposite sex... just the fact that someone has that profound an effect on you is amazing!! :D

Why not enjoy it?

Seriously.

That's just a part of how it is, man. You should start to worry when women do NOTHING to you, not when they DO turn your world upside down... that's a GOOD thing.

It's called life.
 

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