Cucuboth said:
Sci-Fi said:
Simple, you find what makes you happy and go from there. Only you know what makes you happy, what you want from life and enjoy from life.
Awwww, freak'n bingo right there. Why do so many people think that they can dictate what should, and shouldn't, make someone happy?
The downside is, what if what makes you happy is being with someone? Having friends, someone to share experiences with, someone to care about, and not just on a mental and/or emotional level, but on a physical level too. What if what makes you happy is what you've been trying to find for over 20 years, only to always be told that you can't have any of it ....
I don't want to sound like an ******* because I understand this completely and I'm going through it myself, but that's where drastic changes come to be.
This is usually the part where a long story begins, but for the sake of a point, I'll give the gist of it...
About 3 years ago I had met someone special. At the time I didn't know that person would mean a lot to me but that's how it turned out to be. Come to the beginning of this year, there were so many twists and turns in our relationship that we no longer talked. We would always say we were through with each other till one day we went our separate ways. The only thing that made me happy was that person. To be there for the person on an emotional and physical level, to have someone there when bad things happened to me and to be there for when bad things happened to them. I felt stressed, but I also felt and deep down knew that with that person's help I could find the physical and emotional strength to overcome my situations.
After that, I went into a double dip depression. It was double dipped because the first time we both realized we needed each other and the 2nd time we were officially fed up. So the first time I became self destructive, perhaps to a way that I've never officially given that up. If it put me in harm's way and gave me an adrenaline rush I would do it. The 2nd time, I simply shut down. Became cynical. Some people would say I act more like an "*******" now.
Look, what I'm trying to get at is that sometimes we yearn for something so much that we never get it. At a certain point, we shouldn't give up but rather accept the card we were dealt and play them. I've been lonely almost all my life. My early childhood, all I did was move around. I never got to have a childhood friend. I never got to have those friendships that last a lifetime. By the time I settled in somewhere, it was too late. Cliques were formed and factions were created. I could either fit in something or be an outcast, and sadly I had to be an outcast. Fast forward to my post graduation years and I've not only gone through so much to avoid loneliness, but found the courage to man up and face the issue and deal with it accordingly. So I may not have a person I share an intimate relationship with. I may not have someone that will nurture and care for me and I may not have a person that I can care about and feel like I have purpose in my life. You know what... fresia IT. I'll admit it, I'm the guy that purposely makes another person's life sour, but at least I have some sort of satisfaction.
Point being, at a certain point, you're denied something so much that you will change your perspective. At a certain point, you embrace the loneliness and make it a part of you. Sort of how it was with Bane in the Dark Knight Rises. The darkness molded him.
Sometimes that is what has to happen to a human after being denied such simple basic necessities for so long of a time.
So what if you want someone there for you and vice versa? What if that makes you happy?
At a certain point, that happiness changes to making it miserable for those that do have someone. Whether it's something simplistic as being a nuisance in public or something as drastic as resorting to crude methods to wipe a smile off a person's face, we all find our niche. Some of us will become a good person to someone else, others of us will be those that make a rainy day pour harder.
I'm just going off experiences. Sometimes it's not right, it's not wrong, it's just survival.