How to be happy while being lonely?
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rivermaze
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I read books and study, but it's like your jogging, it helps for a while. Unfortunately, I still need people around. I'd say you should go somewhere to see other people, but it's only easy to say that. I'm aware of it and still end up in my bedroom. I'll repeat myself, a volunteer work maybe. It brings longer lasting relief than books.
You also have us...
You also have us...
MountainGhost
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I rely on my daily routine and getting things done around the house to keep me busy during the day and out of my own head. It works for the most part but there's only so much one can do. By the time evening comes along I'm idle again and just waiting for something, anything to happen. Night time is the worst for me.
I write a lot as well...I'm constantly typing something. Most of the time its something I intend on posting but it never makes it past the read over. It's pretty much a waste of time and emotional energy but it keeps me busy
I write a lot as well...I'm constantly typing something. Most of the time its something I intend on posting but it never makes it past the read over. It's pretty much a waste of time and emotional energy but it keeps me busy
Jilted John
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I find it such a waste of life,trying to occupy your days with meaningless stuff just to pass the time.
We should form an A.L.L. corporation and make a fortune!
We should form an A.L.L. corporation and make a fortune!
Ak5
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Hawx79 said:
Eat, drink, watch movies, watch TV, read the news, go on these Forums, etc.
All while trying to improve your social skills and meeting real people.
In response to Jilted John, I agree. We should start a Corporation
Lonesome Crow
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I recently broke up with my GF and moved.
It hasnt beem easy adjusting.
I dont know anyone here
It only been a week.
I text freinds back home.
I attend suppport groups...New poeple gave me thier numbers.
So I can net work...but Im still
adjusting and havnt called anyone.
I havnt hang out to chit chat with
people after meetings but serval
people had introduce themselve
to me..
I made a new friend..Hes been calling
me talk to me and we hang out or
whatever. Its helping me. .
I .go to the beach or park to watch beautiful women.
I go out in public places as much as I can...Hang out at the Starbuck.
Make small talk with prople or flirt
with women here and there..
I go out and eat alone if I have too.
I look for work. I go to the libuary
or job centers make small talks
with chicks
Im in a delimma...I broke up with
my Jennifer to move to be closer to my daughter. Renae did called me
a couple of days ago.
Only time will tell.
Its not that I cant get women.
I just love Renae very much.
There's freaken waazooo of bars or dances clubs here too.. Plenty of
single beautiful women come out at night....
Only time will tell. LOL
As far being happy wheather youre
in a relationship or not....
I read plenty of spiritual or self help book.
Most say its just a chioce.
Some say its just a state of BEING..
Just BE.
It might be helpful if you experinced
Happy mometns in your life.
Ive experinced a lot of happy times and bad times in my life. Fortunately
I was sober through a lot of those fun times...I remember the feelings
So I pretty much just recall or trigger the happy feelings I have from wihtin.
Walk around with happy feelings.
It a concoius decision or awearness
on my part.
Im not dependent on outside
circumstances as much to feel happy or joy.
Im not perfect at it..cuase Ill still react to outside conditions...but I also
know Im capiable of feeling happy
if I choose to.. I might need to make
more of an effort on somedays than others. Rather than reacting to life..
Im get proactive..
It hasnt beem easy adjusting.
I dont know anyone here
It only been a week.
I text freinds back home.
I attend suppport groups...New poeple gave me thier numbers.
So I can net work...but Im still
adjusting and havnt called anyone.
I havnt hang out to chit chat with
people after meetings but serval
people had introduce themselve
to me..
I made a new friend..Hes been calling
me talk to me and we hang out or
whatever. Its helping me. .
I .go to the beach or park to watch beautiful women.
I go out in public places as much as I can...Hang out at the Starbuck.
Make small talk with prople or flirt
with women here and there..
I go out and eat alone if I have too.
I look for work. I go to the libuary
or job centers make small talks
with chicks
Im in a delimma...I broke up with
my Jennifer to move to be closer to my daughter. Renae did called me
a couple of days ago.
Only time will tell.
Its not that I cant get women.
I just love Renae very much.
There's freaken waazooo of bars or dances clubs here too.. Plenty of
single beautiful women come out at night....
Only time will tell. LOL
As far being happy wheather youre
in a relationship or not....
I read plenty of spiritual or self help book.
Most say its just a chioce.
Some say its just a state of BEING..
Just BE.
It might be helpful if you experinced
Happy mometns in your life.
Ive experinced a lot of happy times and bad times in my life. Fortunately
I was sober through a lot of those fun times...I remember the feelings
So I pretty much just recall or trigger the happy feelings I have from wihtin.
Walk around with happy feelings.
It a concoius decision or awearness
on my part.
Im not dependent on outside
circumstances as much to feel happy or joy.
Im not perfect at it..cuase Ill still react to outside conditions...but I also
know Im capiable of feeling happy
if I choose to.. I might need to make
more of an effort on somedays than others. Rather than reacting to life..
Im get proactive..
Aksentije
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Ever taught of a pet? They really are nice
For me personally they keep me going. I am a teen... i know i am in no position to give advice but i never had luck in friendship and have been lonely. So we had two cats a brother and a sister, and the brother got hit by a car. It was sooo sad i cried last time i lost a pet, but the little sister cheered me up.
They really are good company and they are always looking forward to see you. Here a joke:
How to know if your mother in law (god i hate that word) likes you more then your dog?
Put them both in a trunk of a car, and look which one of them gets happy after seeing you.
For me personally they keep me going. I am a teen... i know i am in no position to give advice but i never had luck in friendship and have been lonely. So we had two cats a brother and a sister, and the brother got hit by a car. It was sooo sad i cried last time i lost a pet, but the little sister cheered me up.
They really are good company and they are always looking forward to see you. Here a joke:
How to know if your mother in law (god i hate that word) likes you more then your dog?
Put them both in a trunk of a car, and look which one of them gets happy after seeing you.
Lonesome Crow
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If you stop fighting the feelings
of sadness or lonliness
itll actually go through you .
Then all you gotta do is stop dwelling on
negative thoughts..so it dosnt
become chornic or sort of addiction.
Its habitual.....
Just develope different thinking habits...
It become more graceful for ypu
to go out to meeting people...
To break a cycle. get yourself
of a rut or CHANGE.You just gatta keep on trying.. Your want to return
to the familar or comfortzone.
Your mind is going to figth it or resist
change. Our mind function at its
best in familar enviorment..so
itll want to keep everything the same.
Even if its unhealthy for you.
Itll use fears or justify to keep you
in its comfortzone.
You can use this process to work for you
instead of against you..
Its just simple exposure until you get comfortiable being happy or more socialable.
In other words get out of ur old comfortzone into a new comfortzone.
of sadness or lonliness
itll actually go through you .
Then all you gotta do is stop dwelling on
negative thoughts..so it dosnt
become chornic or sort of addiction.
Its habitual.....
Just develope different thinking habits...
It become more graceful for ypu
to go out to meeting people...
To break a cycle. get yourself
of a rut or CHANGE.You just gatta keep on trying.. Your want to return
to the familar or comfortzone.
Your mind is going to figth it or resist
change. Our mind function at its
best in familar enviorment..so
itll want to keep everything the same.
Even if its unhealthy for you.
Itll use fears or justify to keep you
in its comfortzone.
You can use this process to work for you
instead of against you..
Its just simple exposure until you get comfortiable being happy or more socialable.
In other words get out of ur old comfortzone into a new comfortzone.
Have you tried doing volunteer work in your community?
I've been doing it for about a year and its really helped my loneliness by having the opportunity to interact and meet new people.
You also feel your actually doing something valuable with your time rather than just watching a movie on your own.
I've been doing it for about a year and its really helped my loneliness by having the opportunity to interact and meet new people.
You also feel your actually doing something valuable with your time rather than just watching a movie on your own.
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Bones
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Hawx79 said:
I simply try to ignore it; however, so many has passed now, it is getting harder and harder to ignore. But, reading fantasy books, metaphysics, ect seems to help because it helps me disassociate from life in general at night.
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lonelyfairy
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I try to focus on my interests, so I don't think about my loneliness whole time.
