Change your thinking change your life.
As Kat said....your habitual thinking pattern or your perceptions. Your attitude.
The definition of self esteem is SELF WORTH.
It's not other's worth of you.
Dont let poeple rent space in your head. If you run with what other say about you (an Idea)....it'll become your beliefs system.
Beliefs has nothing to do with religion.
One of spiritual beliefs is that you're complete, perfect and whole already.
So...wouldnt need other's approval wouldnt ya?
Praising seeking, love earning, completing, comparing, guilt, shame....these are some unhealthy behaviors
or beliefs that you were tuaght, condition or programmed as a child.
We're all been programmed and is being programmed.
Your thoughts are the CUASED. Your actions are the EFFECT.
Get to the ROOT or source. Change from the inside out is lasting....Such as having positive habitual thinking patterns.
We all have an inner vioce....some of us listen to the negative inner vioce more than our positive ones.
Practice having positive internal dialog with yourself...Or positive self talk.
I made a list of 100 postive things about myself.
Then I made a vioce recording of myself saying those postive things about myself.
I listen to it everyday ( reparenting/reprogramming) to re inforce my brain with positive messages about myself.
It works wonders. I'll hear positive message run through my mind more often throughout my days.
I did the samething with a gradtitude list. i made a list of 100 things to be grateful for...then recorded myself
saying my gradtitude list.
I also do positive affirmations and visualizations...with lots of positive feelings and emotions.
I allow myself to FEEL those positive feelings of recieving anything and everything I want for my life.
You probably had heard people told you....visualize and feel what it's like to feel to be skinny or sexy.
See yourself, act as if..then let it go.
I'm sharing this with you becuase I'm currently living with my fiance.
Renae and I have a history...We separated 4 months ago. We both went our separarted ways.
Not just across town....across the USA. I didnt know if I would ever she her again.
It was very devistating for me....It hurted and it hurted really, really bad.
I would have gone negative. A lot of people didnt belive in my love for Renae or they figure our relationship
was a lost cuase...Yeah, like it would never work...honeysuckle even negative people on this forum make fun of me.
But you know what?...I love Renae. I beleive in myself. I believe in her love for me. I belieiving in us.
With all the bullshit that Reane lived through...Yeah, it's a miracle Renae and I are together today.
It's posible. Anything is possible. If GOD is on our side..that's great too. We need all the help and blessing
we can get...ITS ALL GOOD. I'm allowing myself to be loved and happy today.
I've also taken actions to be with Renae too. I'm putting all my heart and soul into our relationship and lives.
She wants to marry me. We're getting married. I've allow myself to feel all her love for me as my wife.
It was cool...Last night as Renae and I was fooling around she told me...
"YOU CREATED THIS. DO YOU LIKE YOUR CREATION?"...
Then she showered with her love and kissed me all over. We're very much in love. She loves me very much.
Reane is the love of my life. If you know the full depth of our love and relationship and our pass you wouldnt
think we would be together or should be together.
The thing of it is...I havnt mentioned to Renae anything about my positiving thinking or visualizations.
The same principles you can apply for your self esteem or losing weight.
I dint learn these things on my own. I read lots and lots of books and applied the teachings into myself.
Making a recording of myself saying positive messages was also a suggestion I got from a book.
I took those things into actions