snowblind89
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Today it has occurred to me that I am terrified of doing anything that may affect my life for good or for worse. This summer I was too scared to look for jobs and ended up making no money. I stayed inside my house all summer initially writing a resume but was too afraid to send it anywhere. My parents are paying for my college education/residence, but right now I am too afraid to make a phone call to arrange the housing. I am a 21 year old man and I found myself crying like a child today while reflecting on my life.
I have no friends and I am constantly afraid of how others perceive me. In fact I am paranoid about people in general. My primary anxiety is about them betraying me if i open up to them. When i am walking on the sidewalk i sometimes worry that a car will lose control and hit me. If i am waiting for a subway then i sometimes fear that someone will push me onto the tracks. Walking home at night i think about getting robbed or attacked/murdered. I think I fear death itself mostly because of how embarrassing it will be when no one comes to my funeral.
I have never opened up to anyone my whole life, in other words; i have never had an honest conversation about my thoughts with anyone(at least not while sober). Even this post I write with minimal detail fearing that someone i know might read it and laugh at me. I realized today amidst my pathetic tears that if i don't learn to have faith and trust in people i will be alone for the rest of my life. I think that my anxieties are caused by past trauma but I sometimes wonder if i have autism. I am constantly wondering if my social anxiety is caused by something physical and unchangeable. I also get a paranoia at times that I am so insane that people don't want to tell me and the few friends i ever had in the past just felt sorry for me but never enjoyed being around me.
I want to be able to accept people for who they are and trust them without fearing that they will betray me. I want to have the courage to truly let someone know me but i am terrified that when they do know me they will abandon me.
I have no friends and I am constantly afraid of how others perceive me. In fact I am paranoid about people in general. My primary anxiety is about them betraying me if i open up to them. When i am walking on the sidewalk i sometimes worry that a car will lose control and hit me. If i am waiting for a subway then i sometimes fear that someone will push me onto the tracks. Walking home at night i think about getting robbed or attacked/murdered. I think I fear death itself mostly because of how embarrassing it will be when no one comes to my funeral.
I have never opened up to anyone my whole life, in other words; i have never had an honest conversation about my thoughts with anyone(at least not while sober). Even this post I write with minimal detail fearing that someone i know might read it and laugh at me. I realized today amidst my pathetic tears that if i don't learn to have faith and trust in people i will be alone for the rest of my life. I think that my anxieties are caused by past trauma but I sometimes wonder if i have autism. I am constantly wondering if my social anxiety is caused by something physical and unchangeable. I also get a paranoia at times that I am so insane that people don't want to tell me and the few friends i ever had in the past just felt sorry for me but never enjoyed being around me.
I want to be able to accept people for who they are and trust them without fearing that they will betray me. I want to have the courage to truly let someone know me but i am terrified that when they do know me they will abandon me.