Men - do you feel yourself becoming an 'incel'?

[Unsigned]

Unsigned is not a celebrity and doesn't have a world wide fan base, so it's a different situation.

OK, this thread is going way off course, so I'll try to clarify.
- I only responded about my very rare experiences in cold approaching girls because the other guy seemed to imply I was "bullshirting" him.
- I also only did it the times I was drinking with a bunch of guys and they urged me to do it. I don't do this on my own. In fact, I never even "flirt". It's just not something I do.
- Yes, I know I am not a celebrity. That's why I have always stuck to pay for play, even when I was young, to be with the type of girls I find attractive. I am nothing if not self aware.
- Yes, I am on Seeking (the Sugar Daddy site). I've had an account there for years. But TBH, it's too much work. Even there you really have to talk the girls up. I am not a charmer. Escort services are much easier for someone like me. It's just that they don't help at all in the loneliness department.

 

[ardour]

Brad Pitt is famous, he has more options, simply because the entire world knows who he is. People flock to celebrities. Unsigned is not a celebrity and doesn't have a world wide fan base, so it's a different situation.

That's one reason people find it "gross," but definitely not the only one, there are so many factors involved in a situation like that. And there's a reason I put gross in quotations.

Plenty would have a problem a man his age on paper, certainly, but how people perceive age (subconsciously) is still largely to do with appearances. If this 58 year old approached younger women I doubt he'd be getting ick reactions even if they didn't want to go there.

At least, this is what I tell myself Chuando Tan is my cope....

 

[TropicalStarfish]

OK, this thread is going way off course, so I'll try to clarify.
- I only responded about my very rare experiences in cold approaching girls because the other guy seemed to imply I was "bullshirting" him.

I suddenly desire to have a T-Shirt with a bull on it, now. And on the odd chance anyone compliments me on my shirt, I can say: "Thnx, I'm glad you like my bullshirt!"



...and the fuc*in' market is cornered already, once again... Back to the imaginary drawing board...

 

[abbynormal]

have been one most of my life. nothing new.

 

[MrLonely86]

Women in my country have unreal criterias (?) ..... And since I started to hang around with people from other countries online ( girls included there ) , every 4th girl fell in love with me ... XD

So to conclude, there are 4 billion women on this planet , so no , you are not incel, you are just born in wrong country.

 

[ihopeitworks]

Yeah, I'm an incel by their definition. Although I don't buy the blackpill stuff, the 80/20 rule, the chad only theory, etc.
I'm a 25 yo friendless, virgin who never went on a date and never even asked a girl out

 

[MysteriousTelephone]

Yeah, I'm an incel by their definition. Although I don't buy the blackpill stuff, the 80/20 rule, the chad only theory, etc.
I'm a 25 yo friendless, virgin who never went on a date and never even asked a girl out

If you don't mind me asking, what is it that's kept you from asking a girl out, or even making friends, at your age?

 

[ihopeitworks]

If you don't mind me asking, what is it that's kept you from asking a girl out, or even making friends, at your age?

I am a highly inhibited person, I have like an influence over me that prevents me from talking. And other than that I am pretty ******* boring and have a dead personality.
To give you an idea, I onced downloaded tinder, I had a few matches. But I just couldn't keep a conversation going, let alone an interesting one (and this was over chat so I wasn't as inhibited). So, I never got to ask a girl out and no one stucks arounds me to form a friendship.
Anyway, not having friends doesn't weight on me too much, not having a girlfriend does though, a lot.