septicemia
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As living creatures, our driving life force is to thrive, pair up, and reproduce. Broken down to the very foundation, that is the whole point to life. I am in my 30s now, never had a real relationship, but am so ready for it now. I am reaching the end of my reproductive years, and I definitely feel my biological clock ticking. I can't help it, its instinct, its nature. So why does everyone try to make me feel like I am wrong for wanting it? All I get from the people I turn to with my troubles is that I want it to much. This, coming from people who go from relationship to relationship with little if any down time, since they were in their teens. They can't seem to grasp that I have NEVER felt what its like to share my life with someone, to have a man enhance my life. Then later I have to hear from them about how wonderful their men are, and how they don't know what they would do without them.
Its such salt in the wound, because I already feel like/know there is something wrong with me because I have never been able to attract a man who wants to be with me. Then there are all the people who want to know why I never have a boyfriend. So I am just damned if I do, damned if I don't.
I am NOT wrong for wanting to know whats its like to have love. So why is that the message I get from society? Next time someone tells me this, I am going to tell them "Yes, and that is why you always are sure to spend lots of time being single in your life huh!"
Its totally natural and normal for me to crave companionship at my age. Its perfectly normal for ANYONE to crave companionship, its totally fine to not want it too, but people need to stop making those of us who do want it, feel like we are wrong for wanting it.
Its such salt in the wound, because I already feel like/know there is something wrong with me because I have never been able to attract a man who wants to be with me. Then there are all the people who want to know why I never have a boyfriend. So I am just damned if I do, damned if I don't.
I am NOT wrong for wanting to know whats its like to have love. So why is that the message I get from society? Next time someone tells me this, I am going to tell them "Yes, and that is why you always are sure to spend lots of time being single in your life huh!"
Its totally natural and normal for me to crave companionship at my age. Its perfectly normal for ANYONE to crave companionship, its totally fine to not want it too, but people need to stop making those of us who do want it, feel like we are wrong for wanting it.