Asterli,
Thanks for the differing opinion and insights. I did say to her, early in the conversation, that I had issues myself and she disregarded it. Then during the blow-up, I did say she refused to consider me or even ask how I was doing. I agree that I could have done a far better job with the whole thing. I lost my cool in a big way. I will confront this face to face at some point, but I want to take some time to ponder where to go with this. We've been friends for quite some time, but now I have to ask myself if it's ever been a healthy and postive friendship for me. I'm sad to say I think it began as a onesided ordeal and ended the same way for the same reason.
Sofiasmami--
She does treat others in much the same way. She has a very forceful personality and that has always been fine with me. I like a lot of diversity in the folks I spend time with. You're right, this whole mess has definately made me aware of how I'm changeing and how that change is making me re-evaluate how I want others to treat me. I finally think that, "Welcome Mat" is becoming a bad fit for me.
I ALWAYS love advice! Never hesitate to advise away!
Why share with folks if you don't want to contemplate their feedback?
I am becoming more convinced that this friendship was maybe, NEVER a real friendship but simply a convienient sounding board, stop-over for this woman. I really think it's time for me to move beyond those types of relationships....Thanks for the advice!