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...if maybe it'd be better if I tried my best to not care anymore and resign myself to the aspect that I'll be single my entire life.
You already know my story- the 19-year old, former socially-awkward high school loser who up to the present day has never asked anyone out on a date, BEEN on a date, kissed a girl, been in a relationship and is obviously a virgin. What's been happening recently is that my mind has come under an enormous spell iof thoughts concerning my complete inexperience with the oppoisite sex. Practically all my entire waking moments involve thinking about the fact that I have even yet to ask anyone out or be on a single **** date- it feels overwhelming and incredibly depressing. I've subsequently been feeling extremely negative about the aspect of relationships and life in general. It seems unfair that countless people my age have already been in a fair share of relationships while I have yet to initiate a single ONE. And I know what you're gonna say- get on with life, join clubs, talk to lots of people, etc. but honestly how likely is it that I'm just gonna meet that one girl someday who I'll manage to have an in-depth conversation with and then manage to ask her out at the end? Not that likely, and I'm not trying to sound like I'm really down of myself and not really sure of my abilities. I can keep thinking stuff like "Oh yeah, I'll join a club next semester. Maybe I'll meet a girl there." Bullshit. It just never happens. Even rare is meeting someone in your lecture class. Everyone is just there for the work and has no time for an in-depth "get-to-know-you" kind of thing. You don't even know if the person you're talking to has a boyfriend or not. Stuff like that.
Well how about meeting a girl through your friends? Right. Well not if your friends SUCK and have been the only single group of people you hung out with for all these years. A friendship circle in which no one new ever comes along. People who barely really go out and never go to cool places like clubs and bars. People who aren't that fun to hang around PERIOD and are only interested in Magic Cards basically. No chance. I guess you could suggest that I try getting together another group of friends- from scratch basically. Well that will take AGES and may not work out altogether. Perhaps I'll be in a better position to do that if I ever manage to move downtown- but I must get to that point first. That means finishing all my course credits for the year (and finishing well so as to not get put on academic probation which threatens me), finding a place to live which isn't far away from campus, getting a job near there (probably prior to this point) and then finally convincing my parents to pay for this.
Well how do I know that I'll manage to get good on all my courses if I can't stop thinking about and reanalyzing my relationship inexperience problems? How can I manage to contain and keep in check my depression in regards to this? How can I avoid becoming really bitter about everything and everyone during this time?
See what I really want to do is travel back in time 5 years ago and beat my stupid past self to A BLOODY PULP for being such a stupid, unsocial loser and for placing me in the situation that I've been in for ages and still to this day...
You already know my story- the 19-year old, former socially-awkward high school loser who up to the present day has never asked anyone out on a date, BEEN on a date, kissed a girl, been in a relationship and is obviously a virgin. What's been happening recently is that my mind has come under an enormous spell iof thoughts concerning my complete inexperience with the oppoisite sex. Practically all my entire waking moments involve thinking about the fact that I have even yet to ask anyone out or be on a single **** date- it feels overwhelming and incredibly depressing. I've subsequently been feeling extremely negative about the aspect of relationships and life in general. It seems unfair that countless people my age have already been in a fair share of relationships while I have yet to initiate a single ONE. And I know what you're gonna say- get on with life, join clubs, talk to lots of people, etc. but honestly how likely is it that I'm just gonna meet that one girl someday who I'll manage to have an in-depth conversation with and then manage to ask her out at the end? Not that likely, and I'm not trying to sound like I'm really down of myself and not really sure of my abilities. I can keep thinking stuff like "Oh yeah, I'll join a club next semester. Maybe I'll meet a girl there." Bullshit. It just never happens. Even rare is meeting someone in your lecture class. Everyone is just there for the work and has no time for an in-depth "get-to-know-you" kind of thing. You don't even know if the person you're talking to has a boyfriend or not. Stuff like that.
Well how about meeting a girl through your friends? Right. Well not if your friends SUCK and have been the only single group of people you hung out with for all these years. A friendship circle in which no one new ever comes along. People who barely really go out and never go to cool places like clubs and bars. People who aren't that fun to hang around PERIOD and are only interested in Magic Cards basically. No chance. I guess you could suggest that I try getting together another group of friends- from scratch basically. Well that will take AGES and may not work out altogether. Perhaps I'll be in a better position to do that if I ever manage to move downtown- but I must get to that point first. That means finishing all my course credits for the year (and finishing well so as to not get put on academic probation which threatens me), finding a place to live which isn't far away from campus, getting a job near there (probably prior to this point) and then finally convincing my parents to pay for this.
Well how do I know that I'll manage to get good on all my courses if I can't stop thinking about and reanalyzing my relationship inexperience problems? How can I manage to contain and keep in check my depression in regards to this? How can I avoid becoming really bitter about everything and everyone during this time?
See what I really want to do is travel back in time 5 years ago and beat my stupid past self to A BLOODY PULP for being such a stupid, unsocial loser and for placing me in the situation that I've been in for ages and still to this day...