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ExtensivexLDL
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LonelyDragon said:blue_azure said:Well, a relationship is not the main thing in life. I too am 19, never had a bf before and I cannot help but think having a bf will ease this loneliness in me...
Well, yes and no. Having someone that you are that close to is a great thing. But a person needs more than just one special person to revolve their life around. Otherwise what happens if that person isn't there anymore for one reason or another?
Mhmm.
LonelyDragon said:ExtensivexLDL said:Indeed. Allow me to say though that in my opinion never having a significant other doesn't get to girls as much as it does to guys, since for girls, a balance of a social life and time invested in a relationship is what's important and they could busy themselves with a social life for quite a while without worrying so much, while a guy can have an endless amount of friends and still never feel fully whole knowing he's never been in a relationship (This is especially the case if almost every male friend/acquintance he knows HAS been in one. Particularly painful is knowing YOUNGER people who have been in a relationship in such a case).
I think that's a pretty general statement. I'm sure women feel the way you describe guys too in some (many) cases. And I've known plenty of guys who could care less if they have a g/f or not. (Some of them would fall under the category of "player" for example.)
I'm sure those guys 'who could care less if they have a girlfriend or not' are those who have been in relationships in the past and are therefore not that worried about ever meeting someone else again-- unlike my situation. Also my opinion- there's not category called 'player', there are only those who are more successful with the opposite sex (due to better social skills, flirting, etc) and those who are less, like myself, always trying to hone and improve their skills. I personally, barlely ever have a chance to practice them anywhere since I barely go out but still..