Jack Kerouac
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Would you say anything to her about it?
I met a girl a few weeks ago and went on a date with her last week, and it turned out we had a ton of things in common, we had no problems talking to eachother and she seemed to be giving me many positive signals, she seemed like a really nice girl, we made out when I dropped her off at her place, and I thought we totally hit it off! I told her I would definitely call her again and that I had a really good time with her. Usually I don't express much interest in girls when I take them out to try not to seem needy, but I have been getting tired of playing games and felt comfortable with this girl enough to just say what I was feeling. Is it so wrong to tell somebody you like them?
Then 2 days later I called her and she didn't answer... I tried again the next day and told her I'd be in her area later that night and we should meet up if she was around, and this time she texted me back saying she was at a thing with friends and if she was going to go out to the bars later she'd call me.
That made me think she wasn't interested, but I still wanted to give it another shot because I did like her a bit. Anways, I waited 4 more days and called her and told her of some plans I had that night around her part of the city if she wanted to come with, and said otherwise I knew of some stuff going on this weeked so she should call me back.
But that was yesterday and still nothing.
Now I'm starting to get a little pissed off. I'm not just sad anymore. I do feel pretty bad that she apparently doesn't want to go out with me again since our date seemed really good, and I've been out with 6 girls I met at bars this year, and I have been on dates with girls I had nothing in common with so I know what that's like, but this girl and I shared a TON of things in common and I thought we had fun... If a girl who I get along with great doesn't want to go out with me, how the hell am I ever going to get another relationship going??? This one is kind of making me lose all hope because I've put so much effort into getting a girlfriend this year and nothing has panned out even with girls who I apparently have a lot in common with... All I've been getting is occasional dates with girls who won't give me back proper communication or say what they really mean. The only girl I had a relationship with was one that picked me up, and she was way too into partying and flirting with other guys for me to put up with her...
But should I put up with a girl brushing me off? I'm thinking that not answering a phone or calling back to at least tell me she is not interested is extremely ignorant, and kind of want to say something about it. I was thinking of texting her to let her know that it was shitty of her to not answer and let me know what she was thinking, and that in the future she shouldn't pull that kind of crap on other people.
It's almost as if just letting this go and not saying anything would be wrong, as I've had to sit around with a bad feeling in my stomach for almost a week wondering if I had any chance at all with her. I HATE it when people just stop talking to you, especially when they act like they're all into you. It's just sooooo unfair and uncool that I think she needs to hear about it. Now this would be different if we never went on a date- I've gotten plenty of numbers from girls who would not answer their phones or go out with me after I called them, and while that hurts a bit, I can't hold it against somebody I only met once while drunk if they decide to avoid the situation. But I feel that a girl who I actually picked up sober and took out for the night owes me some kind of responce.
What do you guys think? Would you say anything to a girl that hurt your feelings by ignoring you to let her know that kind of behavior is totally unacceptable?
Sometimes I get so fed up with this dating crap that I feel like I'm going to go nuts. It's just impossible to meet girls who will be honest with you
I just think that I need to start telling some of these girls off when they resort to what I consider mean and antisocial tactics for ending something. Why should I just go on my way and act as if nothing bad happened to me?
What is everyone else's opinion on this?
I met a girl a few weeks ago and went on a date with her last week, and it turned out we had a ton of things in common, we had no problems talking to eachother and she seemed to be giving me many positive signals, she seemed like a really nice girl, we made out when I dropped her off at her place, and I thought we totally hit it off! I told her I would definitely call her again and that I had a really good time with her. Usually I don't express much interest in girls when I take them out to try not to seem needy, but I have been getting tired of playing games and felt comfortable with this girl enough to just say what I was feeling. Is it so wrong to tell somebody you like them?
Then 2 days later I called her and she didn't answer... I tried again the next day and told her I'd be in her area later that night and we should meet up if she was around, and this time she texted me back saying she was at a thing with friends and if she was going to go out to the bars later she'd call me.
That made me think she wasn't interested, but I still wanted to give it another shot because I did like her a bit. Anways, I waited 4 more days and called her and told her of some plans I had that night around her part of the city if she wanted to come with, and said otherwise I knew of some stuff going on this weeked so she should call me back.
But that was yesterday and still nothing.
Now I'm starting to get a little pissed off. I'm not just sad anymore. I do feel pretty bad that she apparently doesn't want to go out with me again since our date seemed really good, and I've been out with 6 girls I met at bars this year, and I have been on dates with girls I had nothing in common with so I know what that's like, but this girl and I shared a TON of things in common and I thought we had fun... If a girl who I get along with great doesn't want to go out with me, how the hell am I ever going to get another relationship going??? This one is kind of making me lose all hope because I've put so much effort into getting a girlfriend this year and nothing has panned out even with girls who I apparently have a lot in common with... All I've been getting is occasional dates with girls who won't give me back proper communication or say what they really mean. The only girl I had a relationship with was one that picked me up, and she was way too into partying and flirting with other guys for me to put up with her...
But should I put up with a girl brushing me off? I'm thinking that not answering a phone or calling back to at least tell me she is not interested is extremely ignorant, and kind of want to say something about it. I was thinking of texting her to let her know that it was shitty of her to not answer and let me know what she was thinking, and that in the future she shouldn't pull that kind of crap on other people.
It's almost as if just letting this go and not saying anything would be wrong, as I've had to sit around with a bad feeling in my stomach for almost a week wondering if I had any chance at all with her. I HATE it when people just stop talking to you, especially when they act like they're all into you. It's just sooooo unfair and uncool that I think she needs to hear about it. Now this would be different if we never went on a date- I've gotten plenty of numbers from girls who would not answer their phones or go out with me after I called them, and while that hurts a bit, I can't hold it against somebody I only met once while drunk if they decide to avoid the situation. But I feel that a girl who I actually picked up sober and took out for the night owes me some kind of responce.
What do you guys think? Would you say anything to a girl that hurt your feelings by ignoring you to let her know that kind of behavior is totally unacceptable?
Sometimes I get so fed up with this dating crap that I feel like I'm going to go nuts. It's just impossible to meet girls who will be honest with you
I just think that I need to start telling some of these girls off when they resort to what I consider mean and antisocial tactics for ending something. Why should I just go on my way and act as if nothing bad happened to me?
What is everyone else's opinion on this?