Badjedidude said:
Hardrurus said:
As far as women go, forget girlfriends and just focus on getting random pussy.
For the most part, I disagree, dude. I think that having a relationship and getting relationship experience when young is a good idea. You don't want to end up in your mid-thirties, just figuring out how to actually romance a woman and treat her like a person (and not "random pussy").
I do agree that it's good for a guy to "sow his oats" for a while...just having sex with chicks to gain experience, confidence, and an idea of what sort of woman he may want in the future...but don't carry it too far. I think romance and intimacy (of the non-sexual type) are just as important to men as to women.
Sorry, and no offense, but the view that men are OK with only food, beer, buddies, and sex is just shallow. I think that guys need that close romantic relationship...just perhaps not quite as early or as strongly as women do. Our society programs only women to be romantically focused, but in reality men are as well.
You ARE right about a man not NEEDING a girlfriend to define who he is, though. If a guy "needs" a woman to make him feel like he has a normal place in society, then something's wrong. A woman should only be an add-on, a pleasant bonus to a man's life.
----Steve
No offense taken, I understand that not everyone thinks like I do.
I say all of this because the mentality of not caring about having a girlfriend will, right now, help him out A LOT.
I guess my post was misunderstood, and I should have made myself more clear. It's OK for a guy to be open to a relationship, but it isn't necessary at my age or his. I disagree with you on what you say that it's important for men too. Deep down, girls want a strong and emotionally independent guy who just does his own thing. I don't know if that's true for older men and women, but it does seem to ring true for girls and guys in their early 20's.
What I meant by "random pussy" is that he should have sex with different girls, not that he shouldn't treat them like people. On the contrary, he must simply treat a girl like a normal, regular person in order to succeed with her, and not like some pure goddess of beauty who is above him....... girls aren't perfect either.... they each have their own personality flaws, disgusting habits, physical imperfections etc.
Plus, us men just see females in a certain way. Even though women are human, we like to see and touch their boobs, vaginas, asses etc. Women are concerned about this meaning that men see them as "objects" or a "piece of meat," but I think they are just interpreting it negatively. It's as natural for men to be "perverted" and visually attracted to women as it is for women to get their periods, get emotional sometimes, cry about minor things etc. As hard as feminists and certain, uhhh "holy" people, can try, they can't change how mother-nature nature made us.
I really don't think that there's anything wrong with just being happy with food, buddies, sex, having fun etc (I can't comment on the beer thing, as I don't drink). Life is meant to be enjoyed, and when a special girl for us comes along, then we see what happens. He shouldn't be concerned with becoming involved in a relationship because, when he starts to focus on improving himself and the non-romantic areas of his life, then it will come to him. Girlfriends just aren't something that you can reach for. A serious relationship is just something that happens, most often when we are busy enjoying our lives and not looking for love.
That's just my perspective anyway.