Shoot, I didn't realize how big of a 'gravedig' this would be,
Sorry xD,
I read your whole post, and several others on the first page,
And I wanted to give my oppinion . .
I don't think that you are less a man if you treat women with kindness and respect.
Maybe I'M weird, but i've always believed in treating EVERYONE with kindness and respect, women, men, any race, any religion . .
Honestly, there doesn't sound like there's anything wrong with you.
I'm sure there's tons of women who'd love to be with a guy who cares for women as much as you.
I don't see anything wrong with wanting to be friends with women . . .
I've always thought that you SHOULD be good/best friends with your girl/guyfriend or husband/wife.
Sure, there has to be that sexual attraction . . but still.
After 30+ years when your partner, and yourself, stop looking hot . . what's gonna keep you together?
Your friendship will . .for sure.
There is no real checklist, sort of thing, on how to be a man.
Don't listen to the media, or whatever
, . . like how a man should be or act.
Who cares if you don't like cars, or sports, or any steriotypical 'manly' stuff like that.
I don't! Well not that many
.
That doesn't mean I'm gay . . or feminine or anything like that.
Anyways, nothing wrong with being feminine or gay >__>.
If that's who you are,
I don't know,
Just be you,
Don't try to change and be something that you're not.