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I shall tell you that I am a Gurl...middle aged whom has found herself in a place I left many years ago...I find it so odd that I am hurt & feel rejected, deep saddness & loneliness. I am also a widow of a 32 year marriage....understand I have been dealing with that but it is the social issues I can't get over. My dearest friend died 5 years ago so I have had time to shed that deep loss but I have been rejected by our oldest friends and am taboo to society it seems to me. We had very close friends which I never see anymore...actually since he died. I went into counseling just to find the advice to be get out there. stick yourself out there so you can mingle and get involved but it has failed in so many ways. I have tried everything I know how to keep in touch or be there but to no avail...my oldest friends have betrayed my trust and don't even realize I know. It is like they are keeping secrets from me so I won't know they are getting together. Tonite I find they are meeting on the Beach in Blaine WA....drinking margaritas watching the sun set....I live in Minn so do the other women there. In the past I would be there with them...I don't get invited anymore...they all are afraid to be with me...I have missed so much now this has been going on for a long time and I came to accept they can't face mortality so I started to go out on my own which is failing miserably. I am sad and lonely and have lowered my expectations. I am angy and just can't figure out what is wrong and why have they really cast me out. These are my friends of 40 years. I had the life. An active successful life and I don't understand. I certainly don't want to be a jerk either. I was there for these people in the good and bad time. My hub & I even helped one buy their home. We loved our friends like family. The one thing I am aware of is that I am the first to have a child, the first to loose a child, the first to loose a parent, the first to loose their mother, the first loose their husband. I had children early on and they were fairly judgemental but when there children came they apologized. Is this my life to discover they really might not have been my friends....this would be too much to bare. The emptiness of it all!!! I invested in these people and they are gone. I can have them alone with out the celebrations....I was told that in August...come visit anytime Jane I would like to visit with you anytime....while they were letting each other know about $200. rd trip air fares.....leaving me out. I confronted my friend about the fares thats when she said come anytime....I did't know until tonite because I am on facebook with them and they were toasting each other and talking a bout where they were and the sunsetlllll I mean what am I to do...how do I reconcile the world around me when it doesn't revolve like it used to. If I delete them there will be no chance of change if I get angry what will that gain...I have tried to communitcate...I know that I am different...but I am not dead. I suppose next I will hear one of their loved ones will pass and they will tell me how sorry they are for treating me the way they did.....My age group does not go out a lot...we stay home and hunker down....I wish I could find some lovely people my age group.
I feel desperate....never thought this woule be me.
I hope I have lived within the rules of this sight.
Thank you for reading. Sky
I shall tell you that I am a Gurl...middle aged whom has found herself in a place I left many years ago...I find it so odd that I am hurt & feel rejected, deep saddness & loneliness. I am also a widow of a 32 year marriage....understand I have been dealing with that but it is the social issues I can't get over. My dearest friend died 5 years ago so I have had time to shed that deep loss but I have been rejected by our oldest friends and am taboo to society it seems to me. We had very close friends which I never see anymore...actually since he died. I went into counseling just to find the advice to be get out there. stick yourself out there so you can mingle and get involved but it has failed in so many ways. I have tried everything I know how to keep in touch or be there but to no avail...my oldest friends have betrayed my trust and don't even realize I know. It is like they are keeping secrets from me so I won't know they are getting together. Tonite I find they are meeting on the Beach in Blaine WA....drinking margaritas watching the sun set....I live in Minn so do the other women there. In the past I would be there with them...I don't get invited anymore...they all are afraid to be with me...I have missed so much now this has been going on for a long time and I came to accept they can't face mortality so I started to go out on my own which is failing miserably. I am sad and lonely and have lowered my expectations. I am angy and just can't figure out what is wrong and why have they really cast me out. These are my friends of 40 years. I had the life. An active successful life and I don't understand. I certainly don't want to be a jerk either. I was there for these people in the good and bad time. My hub & I even helped one buy their home. We loved our friends like family. The one thing I am aware of is that I am the first to have a child, the first to loose a child, the first to loose a parent, the first to loose their mother, the first loose their husband. I had children early on and they were fairly judgemental but when there children came they apologized. Is this my life to discover they really might not have been my friends....this would be too much to bare. The emptiness of it all!!! I invested in these people and they are gone. I can have them alone with out the celebrations....I was told that in August...come visit anytime Jane I would like to visit with you anytime....while they were letting each other know about $200. rd trip air fares.....leaving me out. I confronted my friend about the fares thats when she said come anytime....I did't know until tonite because I am on facebook with them and they were toasting each other and talking a bout where they were and the sunsetlllll I mean what am I to do...how do I reconcile the world around me when it doesn't revolve like it used to. If I delete them there will be no chance of change if I get angry what will that gain...I have tried to communitcate...I know that I am different...but I am not dead. I suppose next I will hear one of their loved ones will pass and they will tell me how sorry they are for treating me the way they did.....My age group does not go out a lot...we stay home and hunker down....I wish I could find some lovely people my age group.
I feel desperate....never thought this woule be me.
I hope I have lived within the rules of this sight.
Thank you for reading. Sky