Well, I miss the companionship, but it comes with a price tag. Is it better or worse? Depends on the days. But you have to be willing to pay the piper.
You’ve got better “considering” skills than I do. I really have to jot down the long list of crazy honeysuckle I’ve heard on first dates, then frame it and hang it somewhere prominent.
Some day I hope to experience that companionship. It’s really tough to find.
I still believe it's possible. BUT, you really have to put yourself out there. Everybody after 30 has baggage and it only gets worse after that. So, your baggage has to work with their baggage. Then there's the diseases issue thing too. Your personalities have to match. The level of craziness has to match. It's all so much effort.
Are you alone now in life because of a bad experience or is that even appropriate to ask?
It seems to me that I’m alone now partly because I would very much like to meet a woman in real life rather than through an app, but since single women here don’t actually get out and do a whole lot, it’s not likely to happen. I’ve tried a lot of different activities up here, and there’s that term, “sausage fest”. For online efforts, my being upfront about not wanting marriage or children but preferring a long term mutually appreciative relationship seems to turn them away. It’s like it’s still the 1950s here, but with alimony as a bonus. Regarding yesterday’s date, there were a couple serious differences between the online profile and real life, one of which being marital status, so that was a non-starter. So yeah, good times.
****. Well see that makes sense to me. This is what has been confusing me. You are now the second person to help me understand these issues. Im sorry that your date was a bust or a "non-starter". Apparently, I have always been a bit oblivious. Im also out of touch with most things because for the past decade my world has revolved around my son. The dating apps, I know nothing about but I can imagine why you would prefer to not go that route. That's actually pretty accurate about single women not getting out. I think thats everywhere. Some I know are just set in the mind that they dont need a man. Anyway, thank you for answering my question.
Yet another thing I don't understand. When I was younger I recall several couples that stayed together despite their basic understanding of the other person. With them I just assumed it was because they thought they should be together based on silly stuff. For example, a friend of mine would not jump ship because she was "hot" and she was a Delta Gamma. It didn't matter that at every turn he was completely confounded by her behavior. I had another friend who's girlfriend couldn't fathom why he wanted to sit around the house and listen to records and get high as opposed to going to a bar. I had another friend who just couldn't understand that his girlfriend had a mood disorder but she was so pretty and fun most of the time. For me, its acceptance. If I can't accept something then I bail out and don't go back because I really don't think people change.Being alone is bloody awful to me, but anything is better than being with someone who doesn't even understand you
Used to. I think you should practice more. With a sense of trying to be better than the last time.
Being alone has many benefits. Dating has other benefits, which may overweigh those of being alone.
I don't think I could enjoy paying for it knowing for sure that the girl doesn't want to be with me.
Wow, if you think that relationships are boring and a waste of time, then maybe you just haven't been in the right one???
