h3donist
Well-known member
..to wonder what your ex partner is up to? Like every day?
My wife and I were together for ten years when I left the home as I'd had enough of her cheating and abusive behaviour. Although I severed all contact with her (bar email for solicitor messages), deleted my old Facebook account & replaced it with a new one, and changed my phone number and address, I often wonder what she is upto. is it normal to feel like that?
She still lives in our house and I pay the mortgage (mainly because she couldn't afford it on her own and I didn't want to go halves with her in case she decided to blow all her cash on something else and leave me financially liable)
She emailed me a couple of weeks after we'd split to tell me that she'd met someone else (she didn't want me to find out via someone else apparently) which didn't surprise me in the slightest as she's never been very good at being alone, and sure enough on her public Facebook feed there are photos of her with a new bloke (ugly ******* brute of a man, beer and football obsessed lout by the looks of things! Probably her ideal sort)
Although I'm happy she's moved on, it's really hard to see her happy with a new man, sat in MY house, on MY sofa with a photo frame that I bought full of photos of them hanging on the wall. They're having the time of their lives while I rely on the goodwill of friends to find me a temporary home and I deal with all the legal work. I just can't shake the feeling that I've received a raw deal in this whole thing. The house will have to be sold eventually but right now I'm out in the cold as it were.
I'm not a weird creepy sort of person who stalks his ex, I'm just finding the whole breakup process a bit bewildering. Just want it to be over
My wife and I were together for ten years when I left the home as I'd had enough of her cheating and abusive behaviour. Although I severed all contact with her (bar email for solicitor messages), deleted my old Facebook account & replaced it with a new one, and changed my phone number and address, I often wonder what she is upto. is it normal to feel like that?
She still lives in our house and I pay the mortgage (mainly because she couldn't afford it on her own and I didn't want to go halves with her in case she decided to blow all her cash on something else and leave me financially liable)
She emailed me a couple of weeks after we'd split to tell me that she'd met someone else (she didn't want me to find out via someone else apparently) which didn't surprise me in the slightest as she's never been very good at being alone, and sure enough on her public Facebook feed there are photos of her with a new bloke (ugly ******* brute of a man, beer and football obsessed lout by the looks of things! Probably her ideal sort)
Although I'm happy she's moved on, it's really hard to see her happy with a new man, sat in MY house, on MY sofa with a photo frame that I bought full of photos of them hanging on the wall. They're having the time of their lives while I rely on the goodwill of friends to find me a temporary home and I deal with all the legal work. I just can't shake the feeling that I've received a raw deal in this whole thing. The house will have to be sold eventually but right now I'm out in the cold as it were.
I'm not a weird creepy sort of person who stalks his ex, I'm just finding the whole breakup process a bit bewildering. Just want it to be over