Ladies, how do you show you are interested?

[Barbaloot]

I think the simple fact this question is being asked following a thread about how you are looking for female companionship despite not being in an open marriage is certainly enough to garner some of the kinds of responses here. Even though you claim you are asking it for fairly innocent reasons, it certainly makes it very suspect - unless your marital situation has changed. A married man should not care to know, but you didn't preface the question in any way that would suggest you weren't asking for yourself.. so hmm...

But I'm curious why someone calling another member here a 'troll' is suddenly allowed when others have been honeysuckle on hard for calling other members a 'troll' in other threads. Callie has in no way behaved like a 'troll', she has only voiced her opinion, defended her words and has not even been blatantly offensive about it. And the accusation of her being a 'troll' is pretty rich considering the source.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Callie is a hardheaded woman, and not someone you want to argue with. Generally you just nod and say "yeah, yeah", even if you disagree.

Just my opinion. Not trying to stir the pot.

But as far as this goes, you're married, so unless you are thinking of getting a divorce or something, you should reconsider asking this question. And if you are married, you should have known enough to get into at least one relationship...

 

[EveWasFramed]

The name-calling needs to stop. An opinion can be expressed without resorting to insults.

 

[Callie]

Callie is a hardheaded woman, and not someone you want to argue with. Generally you just nod and say "yeah, yeah", even if you disagree.

Just my opinion. Not trying to stir the pot.

LOL, so true

ETA...I mean the hardheaded part is true, I actually enjoy a good argument...so

 

[lonelyfairy]

I don't know how to show it. Too shy.

 

[tom_lonely]

As far as my question goes -- I didn't ask it because I wanted to cheat on my wife or do something else bad. For crying-out loud, folks, you really need to all take a chill pill.

I asked the question because of another thread I was participating in, where the question was raised "how to tell if a girl likes me, and in what way?".

That was the ONLY reason I asked the question. I really was asking it on someone else's behalf...to help that person get some perspective.

I'm done explaining and apologizing and trying to make nice. I've tried to be patient and for my trouble, a few people on here have smeared my name and taken cheap shots at me.

I will stand up for myself.


I really don't care to read any replies to this post.


Starting now -- if you leave me alone, I will leave you alone. As long as you state your opinion in a respectful, non passive aggressive manner, I will do the same. If you make a sarcastic remark to me, expect a response.

To all...have a nice night.


If you don't like what I said above...feel free to ignore everything I said. If you feel I am full of crap, then no need to reply and tell me. I don't need to hear it and you don't have to say it.

 

[Callie]

So why not just ask that question in that thread?

Also, expectations lead to disappointments, so I don't expect anything

 

[tom_lonely]

So why not just ask that question in that thread?

Also, expectations lead to disappointments, so I don't expect anything

That's a good question. Maybe I should have...I guess it's too late now...

As far as expectations, I understand what you are saying.

Going forward I will try not let things get to me so much.

 

[Sarah_Lbnz]

to the OP, i will answer your question without being a gardenia about it.

- body contact
- standing close
- extended eye contact
- playing with her hair
- laughing at all of your jokes, even the lame ones
- seeming interested in all your stories, even the lame ones
- going from available to unavailable in order to make you pursue
- probing questions, subtly to find out your views on relationships, marriage, and the like
- complimenting you: "you are smart", "you are strong", etc
- honeysuckle tests (google it)

Even though you're a dude, you're bang on about most of this.

But I don't know about these "honeysuckle tests" you speak of, as that sounds vaguely pornographic and my ma told me a real lady don't do that scheisse stuff

And just as a reminder or an add-on to this list, just because a woman has sex with you once doesn't mean she likes you, or wants to do it again. That's probably obvious to most but not to everyone.

 

[futurecatlady]

I think it depends on the girl. Some girls make it quite obvious. For me, if I don't think I have a chance (the most likely case) I probably avoid the object of my affection as much as possible so as not to seem obvious and creepy. :\ If I think I DO have a chance, I make efforts to talk to them or invite them to things, which I never do usually.

 

[VanillaCreme]

I really don't care to read any replies to this post.

So why bother? You want to start to pickin' fights, you go out to the streets. This is a forum. You open threads, read the posts, and then reply if you choose. You don't pick out someone's reply in which they were stating their opinion and use it to specifically argue with them. People should be able to post their opinions without someone quoting them to try and fight. This ain't no goddamn boxing match.

 

[tom_lonely]

I really don't care to read any replies to this post.

So why bother? You want to start to pickin' fights, you go out to the streets. This is a forum. You open threads, read the posts, and then reply if you choose. You don't pick out someone's reply in which they were stating their opinion and use it to specifically argue with them. People should be able to post their opinions without someone quoting them to try and fight. This ain't no goddamn boxing match.

I don't mean the OP, I meant the specific post that you partially quoted above. THAT post I did not care about getting a reply to. The OP I still would like people to reply to, obviously.

I'm not wanting to pick a fight anymore, with you, or with Callie, or with anyone. Okay? I don't know how I can make it any clearer. I want peace. I want to move forward and just put this behind me.

 

[EveWasFramed]

Keep the thread ON TOPIC please. If you don't have anything to post about the topic, don't post. Aslo, keep in mind that all opinions will not be agreed upon, but they STILL need to be civil replies, not personal attacks.

 

[Callie]

I really don't care to read any replies to this post.

So why bother? You want to start to pickin' fights, you go out to the streets. This is a forum. You open threads, read the posts, and then reply if you choose. You don't pick out someone's reply in which they were stating their opinion and use it to specifically argue with them. People should be able to post their opinions without someone quoting them to try and fight. This ain't no goddamn boxing match.

I don't mean the OP, I meant the specific post that you partially quoted above. THAT post I did not care about getting a reply to. The OP I still would like people to reply to, obviously.

I'm not wanting to pick a fight anymore, with you, or with Callie, or with anyone. Okay? I don't know how I can make it any clearer. I want peace. I want to move forward and just put this behind me.

Why post it if you don't want replies to it? By saying that you are GOING to get replies.
And, IMO (and obviously a few other people), you WERE trying to pick a fight with me. Trying to make ME the bad guy because you posted something and I picked up on it. I'm so terribly sorry I'm observant and speak my mind.
As for your "intentions" with this thread, if someone wants to ask a question, let THEM do it. Clearly if they were talking about it in another thread, they can ask for themselves. However, given your previous thread, that excuse doesn't really fly.

 

[EveWasFramed]

OK...I guess keeping things on topic won't be possible here.