Richard, ah, yes, it is beautiful country out here where I'm at. An outdoor lover's paradise. Three hour drive to the Grand Canyon, a few to Bryce Canyon, an hour or so to Zion NP, an hour to Brian Head Ski Resort, two hours to Vegas/Lake Powell.........not to mention all of the stuff within literal walking distance of my front door. I moved here so I could mountain bike from my front door.........world class trails three miles down the road from me.
It was a good/smart move. (originally born in San Jose, CA)(had a house in the Sierra Nevadas for eight years before moving here)
Where did you visit when you came out?
Yup, you're right about getting a job! haha I know. Since I moved here I can see that I'm "cycling" through a set of patterns every few years. I get a job, something small irritates the hell out of me after I've established myself after a couple of years, and then I quit, vaporize/eat a bunch of pot and waste a lot of time, have what seems like anxiety/panic attacks from having too much fee time to think about ME AND MY PROBLEMS, and then finding a job and realizing how much better off I am with some responsibility in my life.
I know......... It doesn't mean I like it. I don't know how to like it. That's the point. How do you make a gay man like a woman? Maybe a bad analogy, but it makes sense to me. I can fake it all day long, I just can't figure out how to like it. and the cycle repeats........that's where I'm at, and I see it for what it is.
Thank you, morons is a good word! I might even choose a stronger word, lol. One of them was a coworker back in CA, and the other was my dad. hahahahahaha Both times it was said in jest, but you know, I was kind of opening up about things, and then that comes out. I laughed it up with them, but seeing as how I mention it, I know it's stuck with me. I talk to nobody these days with exception to the occasional register person at a store, or rarely a neighbor here. I honestly have shut everyone out for the last four years. I communicate with no one.
Change. It's something I wonder about. Can a gay person change? I haven't seen good results from people attempting it, or having help with changing it. I think there are parallels between these glitches in the brain. Gay people can certainly choose to be with the opposite sex, it's completely within their control. It's completely out of their control as to weather or not they are happy with that choice. So I think most people who are "cured" fake it to comply/fit in. I doubt they're fulfilled or happy with the choice, and I suspect they will "slip up" at some point. Same for the other types I mentioned, but society can't tolerate violence or molestation (thankfully) so they get locked up. I haven't seen much success in the rehabilitation of those other types either. Society has tried, I believe, but the results are there to see for yourself. It doesn't work. I'm only saying what I'm seeing.
The thing I see most often, is people spewing bs that sounds good/enlightening. It's almost the power of suggestion in a way. People say it works, but the results say different most often. People want it to work, people have good intentions for the most part, but the results are.........it doesn't work. Maybe as we figure more about the wiring inside the brain and how it functions we will be able to help with some of the glitches (assuming someone wants help with their glitch).
That's where I'm at. Purely my opinion on the matter, and no offense to any child molesters. (that was in very bad taste, sorry.)
or.....just a sorry excuse not to try to change. Probably the more likely of the two! Bwahahaha
If I'm anything, I'm honest!
I used to live at the library growing up as a kid......and to this day, I still go to the library often. Like I said, I find myself starting conversations all of the time. I'm compelled to talk to people when I'm out and about. It's just that the brain shuts down after a minute, and I'm not even kidding. It's embarrassing, really. When I'm in a checkout line, I'll jump into other people's conversations for a second. I can't help myself! It's hilarious! (considering everything I've just said about myself) Rarely will the conversation materialize into anything more than a few sentences, but if it does.....I end up blushing, getting incredibly tense, and need to get the hell out of there as soon as possible! haha I keep doing it though? I'm laughing out loud right now.
I joined a meetup group a couple of years ago for mountain bikers. Two rides was enough for me on that. Ugh, it's just really unnatural for me to be around people it seems. I can't like it? I don't know why.
Gosh, I didn't mean for my introduction to be such a dramatic thread! lol
Thank you for your words of wisdom, Richard. I find that I'm compelled to be a contrarian to everything everyone throws at me at first....and then I eventually come to my senses and admit I'm wrong! It's just this one thing has got such a grip on me.
Now, enjoy your late thirties......
I'm going to get a beer.