Caged Bird
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Hello everyone,
If you had a parent who raised you and suffered because of that and asks u indirectly to return what they had done for you, what will you do?
My mother is deciding my life for me, and has like this big plan about my life. I have changed since I met my boyfriend and study in Germany (far away from her,she lives in east south Asia) I'm trying my best to make her happy even from here, I give her all my payment I got from my part time jobs, I chat with her if she wants to rant even tho I have alot work and study in library till midnight. But she still doesnt let me be together with my boyfriend (he is in America) she wants me to graduate, going home, work, taking care of my sisters, marry a local guy, being active in our religion. That's what she is planning for me. But what I want is to live simple, somewhere where I would like to, and be together with my boyfriend. If I give in to my mother I will live lonely for the rest of my life... I had that life once, before I moved to germany, I was caged at home, I did all the chores, went to school, go back home, taking care of my sick mother. And she was still NOT happy with me.
She is starting to make me feel guilty, making me feel pity for her, or feel bad to not listen to her. A few days ago she talked two hours straight about how she suffered while raising me up, how much she sacrificed for me. She said she is sure I will just suffer if I marry my boyfriend. I am 23 years now and I so want to marry and have my own family, and live simple. I love my boyfriend very much and he is trying so much to move to germany, he just has not enough money yet. I also love my mother, I will always try my best to help her but I dont think I want that life she had planned for me. I would feel lonely for the rest of my life and I will hate her for doing that to me.
Advices please, thanks.
If you had a parent who raised you and suffered because of that and asks u indirectly to return what they had done for you, what will you do?
My mother is deciding my life for me, and has like this big plan about my life. I have changed since I met my boyfriend and study in Germany (far away from her,she lives in east south Asia) I'm trying my best to make her happy even from here, I give her all my payment I got from my part time jobs, I chat with her if she wants to rant even tho I have alot work and study in library till midnight. But she still doesnt let me be together with my boyfriend (he is in America) she wants me to graduate, going home, work, taking care of my sisters, marry a local guy, being active in our religion. That's what she is planning for me. But what I want is to live simple, somewhere where I would like to, and be together with my boyfriend. If I give in to my mother I will live lonely for the rest of my life... I had that life once, before I moved to germany, I was caged at home, I did all the chores, went to school, go back home, taking care of my sick mother. And she was still NOT happy with me.
She is starting to make me feel guilty, making me feel pity for her, or feel bad to not listen to her. A few days ago she talked two hours straight about how she suffered while raising me up, how much she sacrificed for me. She said she is sure I will just suffer if I marry my boyfriend. I am 23 years now and I so want to marry and have my own family, and live simple. I love my boyfriend very much and he is trying so much to move to germany, he just has not enough money yet. I also love my mother, I will always try my best to help her but I dont think I want that life she had planned for me. I would feel lonely for the rest of my life and I will hate her for doing that to me.
Advices please, thanks.