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egeden

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About me
I am 29 years old male.

The following is my ordinary day
9:00AM : Go to work
10:00AM- 2:00pm : Work
2:00pm - 2:30pm : Have a lunch
2:30pM - 6:30pm : Work
6:30pm-7:00pm : Go to home
7:00pm -7:30pm : Have a dinner
7:30pm -11:30pm : Use computer
11:30pm :sleep


My Story
I have been alone for a long time. I didn't want to make friends because I liked being alone all over my life. There are many reasons for being alone.

First, I am very selfish person.
Secondly, i have negative opinions about human relationships.
Last but not least, I didn't feel comfortable when I was in a group of friends. Because I thought i had to follow their decisions rather than my own decisions. I don't like being told what i need to do. I felt like i was trying to breathe a fresh air underwater.

Appearantly, I like spending most of my times with my computer after work. I think I am deeply in love with my loneliness, which makes me happy in short-term but not in long term. I love my loneliness so much. Because I can do whatever I want without asking anyone for a permission. It's such a good feeling.

However, I realized that I want to make friends now, therefore, I have to break up with my loneliness. I believe that I have to make friends in order to look at life from a different point of view and spend every moment of life with someone who can understand me.

My plan
Starting from Monday, April 1st 2013, I will reduce the time I spend with my computer. I will not use my computer after work. Instead, I will go for a walk after having dinner at 7.30pm. I will also need to go to various places such as pubs, health/fitness centres to try to make friends. However, this will be not easy for me . Because I am not familiar with asking people to be my friend. I think I will give it a try and let you know how my plan goes.

Sorry for my poor english.
 
Hey egeden, welcome to the forum!

I am one who loves to be a loner myself. So I know what you mean. But good luck with what you plan on doing, hope you get to make some new friends. :)
 
ladyforsaken said:
Hey egeden, welcome to the forum!

I am one who loves to be a loner myself. So I know what you mean. But good luck with what you plan on doing, hope you get to make some new friends. :)

Hi
I love being alone too. It makes me happy. However, it harms rather than helps me so I took the decision breaking up with it.
 
Well I totally understand. Do what you feel is right and makes you happy. Just be yourself. All the best. :)
 
egeden said:
The following is my ordinary day
9:00AM : Go to work
10:00AM- 2:00pm : Work
2:00pm - 2:30pm : Have a lunch
2:30pM - 6:30pm : Work
6:30pm-7:00pm : Go to home
7:00pm -7:30pm : Have a dinner
7:30pm -11:30pm : Use computer
11:30pm :sleep

LOL we have the same schedule. Only difference is I goto sleep at 2am. I would like to know how your plan works. I'm trying to make friends too.
 
You don't need to ask people to be your friend egeden, you just treat them as your friends :)
It seems like you've got it figured out. Best of luck to you!
 
I have been in this state of transition from being a loner to getting friends.
Your plan to change is good, however let me give you some pointers.

My advice is that you wont make friends by going to pub/club/walking/gym by yourself. I have done all these things and you always feel like your waiting for someone to talk to you and to be honest i think people can smell it in the air and i found that no one spoke to me.

My advice is to get involved with things which encourages new people to meet and talk. Go online and find hobbies in your local area like a dance class for example. A dance class is great for socialising and also to meet both males and females and usually the people that go are quite active.
There is also websites dedicated for people to meet.

I have used the site City Socialising to meet a whole bunch of new people when i moved town and i even become part of a small click of friends. There is also a website called make new friends (type it into google) which seems good, although i have tried it.
 
Ur life is exactly how my life it..just that i like the "computer time" because i always get adicted to games :D

But great deal breaking up with ur computer hehe

Its like if we just sit here and do nothing, then nothing comes up..barly any text sms or emails..just the spam

So if you start to do something then life will answer you back.
If ur like HELLO WORLD ! and not.bye world... :D
 

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