LoneKiller
Well-known member
Hi Everyone.
I'm just letting you all know in advance that this is going to be a long read.
Although I don't reply to a lot of the threads in the "Issues" section, I do read a lot of them, and peppered throughout, I've noticed that many members have much concern about socializing due to their weight.
It's very important to me that you know that I am not judging anyone. I'm not claiming to know what it feels like to be a person of a larger stature and the pain that comes with it. What I am posting is merely my opinion and feelings related to those who are overweight based on my life experiences.
Very few things piss me off more than when those who aren't of a larger stature make remarks such as: "You wanna lose weight? Try putting the Goddamn fork down for 2 seconds!". "Get your fat ass out of the fridge and go to the gym". These remarks coming from someone who hasn't, and probably never will be overweight, makes me want to smash them right in the face!
How can these jerk-offs possibly know how you feel and what you need to do to lose weight when they haven't experienced the bitter pain overweight some people must endure?! That's like me telling Shaquille O'Neal how it feels to have bad knees and how to fix them, after running up and down the court for 18 years, when I have never stepped on the pro ******* court in my life. If I made a remark like that to him, there's a strong chance he would have a few words for me. More than likely, very disrespectful ones at that. The man is over 7 feet tall and weighs roughly around 300lbs. How the hell am I qualified to advise him?
Do I think Faith Hill is hot? Would I like to bang her? Hell yes! It will never happen, but my point is this. Suppose we were married. We have sex 5 nights a week. What about the rest of the time? I'm going to want someone I can love. Someone I can talk to about anything. Someone to cry with. Someone who will love me unconditionally. A true companion.
I don't give a honeysuckle if anyone believes me when I say that the above mentioned qualities are more important than sex. Just because a woman or man is overweight, doesn't mean that they are incapable of being a wonderful companion who will support you. Who will love you. Who will always have a shoulder for you to cry on when you are hurting. Do people honestly think that an orgasm is as important as all of these qualities?! C'mon!
When I was in my teens, all I thought about was sex, sex, sex. The hottest chicks in school with a big bosom. Now that I am 37yo, sexual release takes a back seat to love. Personally, I enjoy being single at this point in my life, but that doesn't change my feelings that I am posting here. I do eventually want a woman in my life that I can grow old with and love. Just not at this particular time in my life right now.
I'm no Keith Urban. Does that make me less of a person? Does it rob me of the ability to love? Do I not get hurt? Overweight people's hearts beat just the same as anyone else's. I look back to my younger days in school, and remember all of the poor souls who were suffering from obesity and all of the hurtful names I called them, and I just want to ******* die. I can't believe how cruel and insensitive I was.
People would tell me that you were just a young kid. fresia that!! I knew those remarks were painful and still made them anyway. Using my age as an excuse is not only absurd, it's cowardly.
For any of you members or guests reading this. Know this. Don't let your weight rob you of the beauty that only comes from loving who you are. That is a true tragedy. Beauty comes in so many different forms. Too much emphasis is placed on sex these these days. Personally, I like a woman with a little beef on them.
An excellent example are the members in this forum. A while ago, I made a remark that compassion was absent in this forum, because I was angry, hurt, and upset. I soon realized that by speaking with several members, I was wrong. You all understood what I felt like, and made me feel better. What's more beautiful than that? Do you honestly think that after that, I give a fresia about how much members weigh?! How attractive they are?! HELL NO!!!
You are all so caring about each other. Why not show yourselves the same caring? Be proud of the good hearts you have. Be grateful. Start loving and caring about yourself as much as you do each other. It will bring you all much joy in your life. I promise you.
I'm just letting you all know in advance that this is going to be a long read.
Although I don't reply to a lot of the threads in the "Issues" section, I do read a lot of them, and peppered throughout, I've noticed that many members have much concern about socializing due to their weight.
It's very important to me that you know that I am not judging anyone. I'm not claiming to know what it feels like to be a person of a larger stature and the pain that comes with it. What I am posting is merely my opinion and feelings related to those who are overweight based on my life experiences.
Very few things piss me off more than when those who aren't of a larger stature make remarks such as: "You wanna lose weight? Try putting the Goddamn fork down for 2 seconds!". "Get your fat ass out of the fridge and go to the gym". These remarks coming from someone who hasn't, and probably never will be overweight, makes me want to smash them right in the face!
How can these jerk-offs possibly know how you feel and what you need to do to lose weight when they haven't experienced the bitter pain overweight some people must endure?! That's like me telling Shaquille O'Neal how it feels to have bad knees and how to fix them, after running up and down the court for 18 years, when I have never stepped on the pro ******* court in my life. If I made a remark like that to him, there's a strong chance he would have a few words for me. More than likely, very disrespectful ones at that. The man is over 7 feet tall and weighs roughly around 300lbs. How the hell am I qualified to advise him?
Do I think Faith Hill is hot? Would I like to bang her? Hell yes! It will never happen, but my point is this. Suppose we were married. We have sex 5 nights a week. What about the rest of the time? I'm going to want someone I can love. Someone I can talk to about anything. Someone to cry with. Someone who will love me unconditionally. A true companion.
I don't give a honeysuckle if anyone believes me when I say that the above mentioned qualities are more important than sex. Just because a woman or man is overweight, doesn't mean that they are incapable of being a wonderful companion who will support you. Who will love you. Who will always have a shoulder for you to cry on when you are hurting. Do people honestly think that an orgasm is as important as all of these qualities?! C'mon!
When I was in my teens, all I thought about was sex, sex, sex. The hottest chicks in school with a big bosom. Now that I am 37yo, sexual release takes a back seat to love. Personally, I enjoy being single at this point in my life, but that doesn't change my feelings that I am posting here. I do eventually want a woman in my life that I can grow old with and love. Just not at this particular time in my life right now.
I'm no Keith Urban. Does that make me less of a person? Does it rob me of the ability to love? Do I not get hurt? Overweight people's hearts beat just the same as anyone else's. I look back to my younger days in school, and remember all of the poor souls who were suffering from obesity and all of the hurtful names I called them, and I just want to ******* die. I can't believe how cruel and insensitive I was.
People would tell me that you were just a young kid. fresia that!! I knew those remarks were painful and still made them anyway. Using my age as an excuse is not only absurd, it's cowardly.
For any of you members or guests reading this. Know this. Don't let your weight rob you of the beauty that only comes from loving who you are. That is a true tragedy. Beauty comes in so many different forms. Too much emphasis is placed on sex these these days. Personally, I like a woman with a little beef on them.
An excellent example are the members in this forum. A while ago, I made a remark that compassion was absent in this forum, because I was angry, hurt, and upset. I soon realized that by speaking with several members, I was wrong. You all understood what I felt like, and made me feel better. What's more beautiful than that? Do you honestly think that after that, I give a fresia about how much members weigh?! How attractive they are?! HELL NO!!!
You are all so caring about each other. Why not show yourselves the same caring? Be proud of the good hearts you have. Be grateful. Start loving and caring about yourself as much as you do each other. It will bring you all much joy in your life. I promise you.