supernova88
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I'm 25, almost 26, and recently started a new job as a teacher. It has also been a while since I have been a relationship and I'd like to put myself out there yet again. Despite my own social anxieties I don't see myself as a hopeless case as far as dating goes, and having been in a few relationships before I do believe it can happen again. As someone who doesn't go to the bar, though, and who has few friends in the area to lend dating advice or introduce me to someone, I've been tempted to try online dating. In fact I've created two profiles (match.com and plenty of fish) to "look around" until I feel it's the right time to take more action sending messages and whatnot.
The thing is, my new job has taken a lot out of me (waking up early, sleepless nights, after school meetings, etc.), leaving me with little energy to spare on nights and weekends. My job has also impacted several activities I'm deeply committed to and which I'm trying to work back into my schedule as priorities. The point being, I just feel way too busy and tired to not only fit dating, but to fit another human being and her emotional needs, into my life right now. As alone as I feel, the last thing I want to do is to let someone else down by not being there fore her on account of my job and a couple other engagements I'm tied to right now. And yet, I can still feel the sting being so alone at this stage in life. I see all my friends going on dates and getting engaged and married, and I'm still hanging out by myself on a Friday/Saturday night, and really my heart pours right out of my chest.
I'm not sure what the right thing to do for myself is, whether it be to jump into online dating now with the potential it will all work out, or wait a couple months until my life becomes far less hectic and I have time to dedicate to another person. However, I have no idea if or when my time management will finally resolve itself, and I don't want to put myself in a perpetual waiting game. Should I start treading the waters now, maybe find someone willing to take it slow for a while, or should I wait for the right time to give dating all my effort?
The thing is, my new job has taken a lot out of me (waking up early, sleepless nights, after school meetings, etc.), leaving me with little energy to spare on nights and weekends. My job has also impacted several activities I'm deeply committed to and which I'm trying to work back into my schedule as priorities. The point being, I just feel way too busy and tired to not only fit dating, but to fit another human being and her emotional needs, into my life right now. As alone as I feel, the last thing I want to do is to let someone else down by not being there fore her on account of my job and a couple other engagements I'm tied to right now. And yet, I can still feel the sting being so alone at this stage in life. I see all my friends going on dates and getting engaged and married, and I'm still hanging out by myself on a Friday/Saturday night, and really my heart pours right out of my chest.
I'm not sure what the right thing to do for myself is, whether it be to jump into online dating now with the potential it will all work out, or wait a couple months until my life becomes far less hectic and I have time to dedicate to another person. However, I have no idea if or when my time management will finally resolve itself, and I don't want to put myself in a perpetual waiting game. Should I start treading the waters now, maybe find someone willing to take it slow for a while, or should I wait for the right time to give dating all my effort?