hewhowalksalone said:
Agreed. Too bad there are also many people with a bubble over their heads saying 'unfairly high standards'. Anyway, welcome to the gang.
Well, I suppose that depends a good deal upon what you call "unfair".
Based upon a pretty fair bit of experience looking at, for example, personals ads online placed by
both men and women, I'd say a more accurate way to put it is these persons have "unrealistically high standards".
This might be due to the fact that in such a wealthy nation, we have so much choice, and so many choices are so good and
there is so much competition to drive down price.
Perhaps this attitude emerges because our culture states that our personal value is directly measured by
what we are directly connected to, such as a specific home, car, job, income or relationship partner.
I am not an advocate of anyone being shamed into feeling completely hopeless, but I do think that everything
has to be earned, and I do think that affection is earned by actions and traits.
It is obvious that an incredible number of people with virtues get overlooked and rejected.
I could be mistaken, but I am pretty confident in saying that males bear 99 per cent of the brunt of rejection in all aspects of our society.
Women, by contrast, appear now to be led by literally insane fanatics telling them that no matter if they fail or no matter if they deliberately make themselves unhealthy, they are perfect, and physically beautiful and equal and deserve special treatment and all the money and benefits they can carry away, and they are al victims of men who are all evil. And no, folks, that's not at all an exaggeration.
Men are no better. The reality of biology is that 99 per cent of men are literally superfluous, useless.
Yet all these profoundly mediocre men expect to be loved just like mommy did. Sorry timmy. Not likely to happen.
And of course there are the alphas, some of them clearly phony.
These are of course the men the women WILL accept, then next week they will be crying by the water
cooler about how he used her and dumped her, and all she REALLY wants is a NICE GUY.
No you don't. If you wanted a nice guy, you had your pick of literally THOUSANDS.
And some of you do pick one, get married, make his life hell, and still have sex with the "bad boys" and get away with it.