There's a letting go program call the Sedona Methdoe.
As you stated...I don't have control of whatever the hell thoughts that pops into my mind either.
In the past I'd tried to figure the honeysuckle out..Mostly about my ex-gf becuase I was very resentful at her.
She was a phyco ***** and did a lot of things that was totally wrong and why Jenni had to died.
However it didn't mattered if it was right, wrong, unfair, justified or indifference.
The BS just went round and round in my head...once I started wanting figure the honeysuckle out..it was like I was
suffering and hurting myself...Especailly Jenni's passing becuase no matter what sernario my mind came up with
it was still very painful and my mind also sometimes gose into obession mode becuase nothing in my mind could resovled
it..Why ?...why?..why?...
I'd get thoughts of her randomly..throughout my days...then I would break down cry, get angery. Every up setting.
If i run with those thoughts long enough...I'll just go into a state of depression and feel really, really like honeysuckle...then more fresia up
thoughts ...so on and so forth.
Anyways..it works with guiilt, fears, shame, jealousy, grieving...
It dosn't go into moral vaules, judgements, comparing, competing...
Basically...all of that stuff keeps you in the cycle of thinking....thinking thinking...this is good ..that's bad.
It just takes practice...no praying....no forgivness..no I'm right , you're wrong.
Just LET GO...it's so simple , it's mind blowing.
When ever i catch myself running with thoughts that are very upsetting to me...I just remind myself to let go and don't figure the honeysuckle out.
Then I'm in a state of peace again... basically when I'm in a state of peace..I don't react as much.
Plus I'm not wasting my time and energy (being dyfucntional) on up setting honeysuckle that's not going to matter oneway or the other anyways..
Jenni is not going to came back from the dead no matter what I think, say, or do.