Sunless Sky
Well-known member
Hello everyone,
I have been thinking about this dilemma i am having for a while now and i decided i needed some outside perspective(s) on it.
First, some backstory.
I met this woman on this site when i first joined with my first ever account (deleted now). We hit it off almost immedialtely and the daily messages started. We became good friends in a matter of weeks as we were sharing very personal things with each other (i dont know if thats a good thing or we both just didnt have well defined boundaries). She had a boyfriend and we would sometimes talk about her relationship (which was abusive). I would give her advice on how to fix the problems she was having in her relationship. Time passed and our bond grew stronger. One day we just gave in and said those three words to each other: "I love you" despite the obvious problem of her being in a relationship already. We carried on our daily correspondance with each other and while i was enjoying every second i spent with her, the nagging voice telling me this was wrong never went away. Then came the day were we would inevitabley address this problem. While i clearly said i was not okay with the current situation, i didnt do anything about it at the time. I didnt want to let her go. Over time, the voice would eat away at me until one day we had that conversation again. This time i didnt back down and ended things.
Some important tidbits to note: we discussed moving our relationship to the real world, i was even prepared to travel to her country to visit her but she said she was, and i quote, "poison" and that we shouldnt meet because she is too "damaged" to have a real relationship.
Now onto the dilemma.
I learned recently that she left her boyfriend and is now living on her own. Should i get back in touch with her? She has my email and as such could contact me anytime she wanted but she hasnt. She only contacted me once after the relationship was over saying she thinks about me from time to time. Is the fact she hasnt gotten in touch me meaning she doesnt want to resume our relationship?. I still think about her from time to time and miss the connection we had.
What do you guys think?
If you have gotten this far then thank you for reading my post.
Best regards and stay safe everyone
I have been thinking about this dilemma i am having for a while now and i decided i needed some outside perspective(s) on it.
First, some backstory.
I met this woman on this site when i first joined with my first ever account (deleted now). We hit it off almost immedialtely and the daily messages started. We became good friends in a matter of weeks as we were sharing very personal things with each other (i dont know if thats a good thing or we both just didnt have well defined boundaries). She had a boyfriend and we would sometimes talk about her relationship (which was abusive). I would give her advice on how to fix the problems she was having in her relationship. Time passed and our bond grew stronger. One day we just gave in and said those three words to each other: "I love you" despite the obvious problem of her being in a relationship already. We carried on our daily correspondance with each other and while i was enjoying every second i spent with her, the nagging voice telling me this was wrong never went away. Then came the day were we would inevitabley address this problem. While i clearly said i was not okay with the current situation, i didnt do anything about it at the time. I didnt want to let her go. Over time, the voice would eat away at me until one day we had that conversation again. This time i didnt back down and ended things.
Some important tidbits to note: we discussed moving our relationship to the real world, i was even prepared to travel to her country to visit her but she said she was, and i quote, "poison" and that we shouldnt meet because she is too "damaged" to have a real relationship.
Now onto the dilemma.
I learned recently that she left her boyfriend and is now living on her own. Should i get back in touch with her? She has my email and as such could contact me anytime she wanted but she hasnt. She only contacted me once after the relationship was over saying she thinks about me from time to time. Is the fact she hasnt gotten in touch me meaning she doesnt want to resume our relationship?. I still think about her from time to time and miss the connection we had.
What do you guys think?
If you have gotten this far then thank you for reading my post.
Best regards and stay safe everyone