QuietGuy
Well-known member
(Please don't feel you have to reply to this, but I just need to put some of my thoughts down somewhere.)
So, there's this girl. (Classic opening line!) I've known her just as a friend for quite a while, but very recently it looks like things might be moving beyond just friendship.
We get on very well together, and have quite a few things in common, which means it's easy to have nice long conversations. As I've mentioned in an earlier post, it's very rare that I feel that magic spark of chemistry with a girl, but I'm feeling it now. I think about her almost constantly now, from the moment I wake up, in every spare moment I have during the day, to the moment I fall asleep.
I'm usually utterly hopeless when it comes to spotting the signs that a girl likes me, but I think she's been giving me a few, like regularly giving me an affectionate touch on my arm, giving me a hug (she's never hugged me before), giving me kinda shy smiles, etc. And I'm fairly sure she's single (I don't recall her ever mentioning a boyfriend in the whole time I've known her).
To be honest, I'm finding myself very strongly attracted to her in a romantic way, and that very rarely happens for me. I just love her personality - a slightly shy, very sweet, "girl next door". I'm also feeling that lovely "supportive and caring" instinct towards her. giftofflavor put it well in another post: "I want a relationship where we take care of each other and know that when life gets difficult that the other will always be there to help support them."
I admit, I would really really like something romantic to develop between us. I think I have enough self-control to prevent myself from trying to force or rush a relationship with her, but I also know I must give her sufficient indications of my feelings towards her, otherwise nothing will ever happen.
I also admit, I've been fantasising about what it would be like to have a relationship with her. Yes, I know it's an unwise thing to do, because real life never turns out the same as your fantasies. But I can't help it. After so long being single, I think I just might have found someone special. This thought sets my insides churning like a massive cement mixer on full power.
Of course, I'm also mentally preparing myself for potential disappointments, eg: she actually sees me as "just a friend", she actually has a boyfriend that she's never mentioned, etc. Always good to try to be prepared for these things, to minimise heartache later. If things don't work out with her, sure the disappointment will be extremely painful at first, but I'm confident that my little candle flame of hope will still keep burning.
Well, that's probably enough of my thoughts for now. Many thanks for giving me this space to share them.
So, there's this girl. (Classic opening line!) I've known her just as a friend for quite a while, but very recently it looks like things might be moving beyond just friendship.
We get on very well together, and have quite a few things in common, which means it's easy to have nice long conversations. As I've mentioned in an earlier post, it's very rare that I feel that magic spark of chemistry with a girl, but I'm feeling it now. I think about her almost constantly now, from the moment I wake up, in every spare moment I have during the day, to the moment I fall asleep.
I'm usually utterly hopeless when it comes to spotting the signs that a girl likes me, but I think she's been giving me a few, like regularly giving me an affectionate touch on my arm, giving me a hug (she's never hugged me before), giving me kinda shy smiles, etc. And I'm fairly sure she's single (I don't recall her ever mentioning a boyfriend in the whole time I've known her).
To be honest, I'm finding myself very strongly attracted to her in a romantic way, and that very rarely happens for me. I just love her personality - a slightly shy, very sweet, "girl next door". I'm also feeling that lovely "supportive and caring" instinct towards her. giftofflavor put it well in another post: "I want a relationship where we take care of each other and know that when life gets difficult that the other will always be there to help support them."
I admit, I would really really like something romantic to develop between us. I think I have enough self-control to prevent myself from trying to force or rush a relationship with her, but I also know I must give her sufficient indications of my feelings towards her, otherwise nothing will ever happen.
I also admit, I've been fantasising about what it would be like to have a relationship with her. Yes, I know it's an unwise thing to do, because real life never turns out the same as your fantasies. But I can't help it. After so long being single, I think I just might have found someone special. This thought sets my insides churning like a massive cement mixer on full power.
Of course, I'm also mentally preparing myself for potential disappointments, eg: she actually sees me as "just a friend", she actually has a boyfriend that she's never mentioned, etc. Always good to try to be prepared for these things, to minimise heartache later. If things don't work out with her, sure the disappointment will be extremely painful at first, but I'm confident that my little candle flame of hope will still keep burning.
Well, that's probably enough of my thoughts for now. Many thanks for giving me this space to share them.