Naleena said:
Locke said:
Begin to hate yourself.
Run away from all of your problems and hide.
Disappear from the lives of everyone you used to know.
Dwell on the past as much as possible, and focus on how difficult things have become.
Hate yourself a little more, just for good measure.
Try and reach a place that can only be described as a pit of loneliness and despair.
Give up on yourself, life, people and anything else that you care about.
(Just in case its not clear, don't do any of the above, it didn't work so well for me. Climbing out of that despair pit is a lot harder than jumping into it.)
Well put! Lonliness is a process. Is like a road almost. How does one get to that place?
Bones said:
The feeling a person does not belong in this world.
That is such a sad place....especially when its for reasons you can't help.
Its like the end of the loneliness road, you come to this.
Peaches said:
end up being the "strange one" on the block, say, the only white kid in a black neighborhood or vice versa
Is it being different or that makes us lonely or being told there is something wrong with being different? Or is it because being different makes one feel that they can't be understood?
I just wrote something on another thread about being different.... I think its a combination of all of that ^^ Being different makes us feel like we are misunderstood and cannot connect with people = LONELY. Being either shunned or picked on from a young age for being different, as children and adult both do = LONELY and mostly society says different people are weird people should be avoided.
My take on what makes people lonely? Self-esteem. For whatever reason a person can a blow to their self esteem, from there its easy to spiral into thinking your worthless, stupid, fat, ugly, weird (take your pick) and self talk yourself into thinking no-one wants to know you, so you give up trying and settle for lonliness over putting yourself out there and possibly having your self -esteem shattered even more. I guess you could call it a form of self-preservation.
Locke said:
Naleena said:
Locke said:
Begin to hate yourself.
Run away from all of your problems and hide.
Disappear from the lives of everyone you used to know.
Dwell on the past as much as possible, and focus on how difficult things have become.
Hate yourself a little more, just for good measure.
Try and reach a place that can only be described as a pit of loneliness and despair.
Give up on yourself, life, people and anything else that you care about.
(Just in case its not clear, don't do any of the above, it didn't work so well for me. Climbing out of that despair pit is a lot harder than jumping into it.)
Well put! Lonliness is a process. Is like a road almost. How does one get to that place?
The path to loneliness is different for everyone I suppose. For me, it was my pregnant wife dying in a car accident that I still blame myself for. Its odd, last time I told someone that, it took a lot more words and effort, and that was only a week ago. I wonder if that's a sign that its getting easier.
I let all of those negative things I listed happen faster than you might think. Bitterness, self pity and anger are truly dangerous.
Locke, so sorry to hear that (hugs)
