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DemonsInside
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My first post here of many many more to come... (names are slightly varied to protect identities.. since locations are mentioned)
Each night when I head home and turn at the corner, I look towards your old spot, hoping by some miracle this was a dream. I look and sigh, and each night as I turn off the engine of my car and head towards the stairs. You always knew when I was home, you could hear me.. I cry. Not one tear, not two, but enough..I'm sure everyone in the apts can hear me.
You knew exactly what would happen when you left to me... You knew I'd fall apart, you knew I'd cry.. I remember you watching me cry so loud and sob the morning you left, but you didn't even try and comfort me.. You placed a kiss on my cheek and said goodbye..Just as has been done so many times before. The same silence.. the same screaming and dying inside.. the same kiss.. the same goodbye...
Was I just supposed to put a smile on and not care? Was I supposed to just let you go and be fine with it? Maybe it'd been okay.. if I didn't emotionally entwine myself with you. I might not have cared if I didn't devote myself and life to you.
You were happy here, and you can't deny it..the first snow fall..our silly run through the rain and water.. don't try and tell me all that ment nothing. You froliced in the snow.. I took the pictures on your camera, so beautiful, so lovely.. so entirely mine you were.. that I believed it.. so entirely I was yours. Just like my mind races now so did yours... but I didn't let anyone influence my decision to marry you.. it's what I wanted, it's what made me so relaxed I knew and so I thought we were so powerful.. our dedication to each other.. our love..Your vows were beautiful..
I just wanted what was best for your daughters.. and honestly the best was not with us at the moment.. It was going to happen this summer, we were going to have them here.. did you even ask them if they wanted to come out here?
The one thing I've learned from watching and observing parents is that sometimes you have to sacrifice your happiness for them. You become their guide and when they were going to come out.. I wanted to adopt them, Lis. It brings tears to my eyes to tell you this. I mean.. did you not watch me with them during Christmas? Everyone can say I looked miserable and unhappy, but you KNOW the truth.. you know I told you how special christmas was, you know because I cried..
I was worried, Lis, and rightfully so, as a husband as a father who was going to have two children to take care of. It was not that I wasn't ready. I WANTED the best for them and us. Finish school, get a great job..keep working hard.. Lissa will see it, she'll know how much you love her and them. Those were the very thoughts in my head. Work hard and you'll get ahead.
Money this and money that.. yeah I was frugal always worried and talking about how we never had money. But Lissa...around half of my pay was already GONE before I got the money. Yeah the car was my problem as well as my 2600 loan. But our rent 445 and our electricty, cable, (120) then my phone, car insurance (130) We had less then a 100 bucks on food...gas..and other things each month..and as much as we loved to eat out... well..
I'M NOT BLAMING YOU. please don't take it that way as you have in the past. I just want you to know why I did what I did, what was going on in my head.. the stress.. the worry.. the depression.
So many husbands.. so many fathers suffer just to see their family survive.. how could we take care of our daughters..when we had less then 100 bucks to get through the month.. I didn't want them to suffer..I didn't want us to starve. I didn't want them to think our family was any different.. I didn't want them to endure the same crap growing up poor that I did, the same ridicule, the same harrassment at school.
Again; I was soooo happy as a family with you and Mia, our home was beautiful we had it all. I wasn't perfect.. yeah I did a lot of horrible things to you.. but I changed.. you can't deny that I changed. I stopped lying to you.. I became what I thought you wanted me to become.
I know you called..was it for me? was it only because I asked you too? Would you have done so if I hadn't asked you to? Why do you think I'm trying to manipulate you? Were you cold on the phone or did you sound like you actually cared about what happened to me? Or did you call because if something did happen to me, would it be because you'd feel guilty?
I was needy? because I called you everyday from work? Because you were my few minutes of sanity from the job I HATE. I was clingy? Because I wanted to be next to you? because I wanted to snuggle and sit with you, because I was always close to you? I remember you used to say.. it's okay you'll have me forever, for the rest of our lives.. remember when we used to sleep in till 2 and come out and have breakfast.. I loved being near you. I loved being close.. Why couldn't you talk to me? Everything I did annoyed you or bothered you.
I was doing what I thought you wanted me to do, attach to you emotionally.. be close.. have you be my world, instead of all these other people. so I did... I thought you wanted to be Mrs. Elisabeth XXXX. So we were married.. then what? You said you felt nothing? What?! How?! How can you marry someone and feel nothing...
All I needed was just the rest of this year, Lis, and next summer we would have been moving to XXXX.. I just needed one more year..the girls would have came out this summer for the school year, and we would have been back in XXXX the next... What's one year? I'd have gotten a job..I'd be working on my master's degree. You could be in school..even.. if you still left and wanted to keep our marriage. I'd have been out there as much as I could to see you and spend time with you.. yeah it'd been rough.. but we could have done it.. just a year.then I'd move out myself to be with you.
Each night when I head home and turn at the corner, I look towards your old spot, hoping by some miracle this was a dream. I look and sigh, and each night as I turn off the engine of my car and head towards the stairs. You always knew when I was home, you could hear me.. I cry. Not one tear, not two, but enough..I'm sure everyone in the apts can hear me.
You knew exactly what would happen when you left to me... You knew I'd fall apart, you knew I'd cry.. I remember you watching me cry so loud and sob the morning you left, but you didn't even try and comfort me.. You placed a kiss on my cheek and said goodbye..Just as has been done so many times before. The same silence.. the same screaming and dying inside.. the same kiss.. the same goodbye...
Was I just supposed to put a smile on and not care? Was I supposed to just let you go and be fine with it? Maybe it'd been okay.. if I didn't emotionally entwine myself with you. I might not have cared if I didn't devote myself and life to you.
You were happy here, and you can't deny it..the first snow fall..our silly run through the rain and water.. don't try and tell me all that ment nothing. You froliced in the snow.. I took the pictures on your camera, so beautiful, so lovely.. so entirely mine you were.. that I believed it.. so entirely I was yours. Just like my mind races now so did yours... but I didn't let anyone influence my decision to marry you.. it's what I wanted, it's what made me so relaxed I knew and so I thought we were so powerful.. our dedication to each other.. our love..Your vows were beautiful..
I just wanted what was best for your daughters.. and honestly the best was not with us at the moment.. It was going to happen this summer, we were going to have them here.. did you even ask them if they wanted to come out here?
The one thing I've learned from watching and observing parents is that sometimes you have to sacrifice your happiness for them. You become their guide and when they were going to come out.. I wanted to adopt them, Lis. It brings tears to my eyes to tell you this. I mean.. did you not watch me with them during Christmas? Everyone can say I looked miserable and unhappy, but you KNOW the truth.. you know I told you how special christmas was, you know because I cried..
I was worried, Lis, and rightfully so, as a husband as a father who was going to have two children to take care of. It was not that I wasn't ready. I WANTED the best for them and us. Finish school, get a great job..keep working hard.. Lissa will see it, she'll know how much you love her and them. Those were the very thoughts in my head. Work hard and you'll get ahead.
Money this and money that.. yeah I was frugal always worried and talking about how we never had money. But Lissa...around half of my pay was already GONE before I got the money. Yeah the car was my problem as well as my 2600 loan. But our rent 445 and our electricty, cable, (120) then my phone, car insurance (130) We had less then a 100 bucks on food...gas..and other things each month..and as much as we loved to eat out... well..
I'M NOT BLAMING YOU. please don't take it that way as you have in the past. I just want you to know why I did what I did, what was going on in my head.. the stress.. the worry.. the depression.
So many husbands.. so many fathers suffer just to see their family survive.. how could we take care of our daughters..when we had less then 100 bucks to get through the month.. I didn't want them to suffer..I didn't want us to starve. I didn't want them to think our family was any different.. I didn't want them to endure the same crap growing up poor that I did, the same ridicule, the same harrassment at school.
Again; I was soooo happy as a family with you and Mia, our home was beautiful we had it all. I wasn't perfect.. yeah I did a lot of horrible things to you.. but I changed.. you can't deny that I changed. I stopped lying to you.. I became what I thought you wanted me to become.
I know you called..was it for me? was it only because I asked you too? Would you have done so if I hadn't asked you to? Why do you think I'm trying to manipulate you? Were you cold on the phone or did you sound like you actually cared about what happened to me? Or did you call because if something did happen to me, would it be because you'd feel guilty?
I was needy? because I called you everyday from work? Because you were my few minutes of sanity from the job I HATE. I was clingy? Because I wanted to be next to you? because I wanted to snuggle and sit with you, because I was always close to you? I remember you used to say.. it's okay you'll have me forever, for the rest of our lives.. remember when we used to sleep in till 2 and come out and have breakfast.. I loved being near you. I loved being close.. Why couldn't you talk to me? Everything I did annoyed you or bothered you.
I was doing what I thought you wanted me to do, attach to you emotionally.. be close.. have you be my world, instead of all these other people. so I did... I thought you wanted to be Mrs. Elisabeth XXXX. So we were married.. then what? You said you felt nothing? What?! How?! How can you marry someone and feel nothing...
All I needed was just the rest of this year, Lis, and next summer we would have been moving to XXXX.. I just needed one more year..the girls would have came out this summer for the school year, and we would have been back in XXXX the next... What's one year? I'd have gotten a job..I'd be working on my master's degree. You could be in school..even.. if you still left and wanted to keep our marriage. I'd have been out there as much as I could to see you and spend time with you.. yeah it'd been rough.. but we could have done it.. just a year.then I'd move out myself to be with you.