I have gone through the notion that women want to be with ********. I have also become aware that this is not true most of the time, they are with them because they either have problems themselves and got into a controlling relationship and now can't get out. I have many theories why someone wouldn't just leave a bad relationship, but mostly it boils down to confidence. The guy started out a good guy, with lots of confidence, then later turned into the monster he really was the whole time. Someone with confidence can definitely get the upper hand on someone that doesn't. My concern is that the ******** of the world that come off as good at first, are ruining the dating pool for the genuine nice guys. That and the fact that we live in a world where sex rules, and courting is pretty much dead. Is it possible to find anyone that still believes in what seems to be outdated philosophies, and old world values? Were talking chivalry, courting, and honest, trusting, and long lasting true love.