AskingtheEarth
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This is mainly centred around self-esteem.
I have found in life that feeling bad about myself has always ended... well, badly. All of this self-loathing, wishing I could be something that I'm not.
It took me until recently (I'm in my 30s) but one day it was like a light switch came on over my head. Suddenly, I realised the route to banishing all these "I wish I was..." notions - and it's nothing more complex than accepting yourself for your faults as well as your good points.
I'm a sad, useless failure of a man. I'm a creepy-looking overweight loser. I'm a socially inept freak with no career prospects. This is me. I am what I am.
I know there will be people now rushing to type out 'I'm sure you're not all those things', and as nice as those sentiments are, they are completely unnecessary and will only make me laugh. Which can only be good, so please, still feel free to type them! But the long and short of it is, I know that I'm all of these things, and I've accepted that I'm all of these things - and most importantly of all, I've trained myself to be happy that I'm all of these things.
I don't know if this will help anyone. A lot of people will find it absolutely ridiculous. But it's the way I've learnt to cope, and I'm throwing it out there just in case... if it can help just one person, it's been worth typing out.
I have found in life that feeling bad about myself has always ended... well, badly. All of this self-loathing, wishing I could be something that I'm not.
It took me until recently (I'm in my 30s) but one day it was like a light switch came on over my head. Suddenly, I realised the route to banishing all these "I wish I was..." notions - and it's nothing more complex than accepting yourself for your faults as well as your good points.
I'm a sad, useless failure of a man. I'm a creepy-looking overweight loser. I'm a socially inept freak with no career prospects. This is me. I am what I am.
I know there will be people now rushing to type out 'I'm sure you're not all those things', and as nice as those sentiments are, they are completely unnecessary and will only make me laugh. Which can only be good, so please, still feel free to type them! But the long and short of it is, I know that I'm all of these things, and I've accepted that I'm all of these things - and most importantly of all, I've trained myself to be happy that I'm all of these things.
I don't know if this will help anyone. A lot of people will find it absolutely ridiculous. But it's the way I've learnt to cope, and I'm throwing it out there just in case... if it can help just one person, it's been worth typing out.