Thick Skin. Big Heart

[MadMonkè]

It seems to me that I have a very thin layer of skin.

not the epidermis... i mean the hypothetical skin or face...
I can get easily self conscious... sometimes by the honeysuckle I say, or by what others say - even if its not about me....

Somehow I end up being the victim... is this self delusion?
I often tell myself that I am not a very good liar.
but it turns out I have been lying to myself for a very long time.
I am a great liar. I lie to myself wayyyy too well....

Anyway... I just found this out recently about myself...
that having a thick skin has saved me from feeling isolated and lonely.
So if I may give one piece of advice... its to grow a thick skin in the face of adversity... its a natural form of protection...

How? I have my own way... probably wont help anyone else.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

[youtube]osfxaZob-nk[/youtube]

Sometimes it's emotional...never the less the principles are the same.
[youtube]IxdjFYo4clI[/youtube]

The principle of wealth and aboudance...in love, money, friendship happiness...ect
He speaks of desire....but didnt get into GUILT. GUILT block your desires.
Thats why it's emotional...
[youtube]m73pePb5BUY[/youtube]

you might also try looking up the art of RECIEVING.
Some of us put in a lot of work...but still dont harvest our crops or recieve our blessings.
Such as recieving a compliment or anything else in life that's freely given to us.
It's like an ego thing or pride in reverse...We give , give give...becuase we believe it's better to give than to recieve.
Then we feel victimized or play victim.lol

 

[Gutted]

I agree. Thick skin makes for a great shield in many ways

 

[whispers]

I wear masks, game face. I can convince myself i am something when at the core it is not who i am nor who i want to be. But what i need to be at the moment...

 

[Felix]

Everyone lies to themselves...

 

[LoneKiller]

Being "Thick Skinned" is a very important thing in life.
I play chess, and believe it or not, being thick skinned is very important. I like to think to think that I am super thick skinned, but truthfully, at times I can be thin skinned.

 

[grainofrice24]

Being thick skinned is good as it keeps you stable and ensures that you don't always fall to pieces in the face of a challenge.

HOWEVER this notion of "developing a thick skin to cope with your problems" is like saying I'm going to deal with pain by developing a higher threshold for pain. It doesnt SOLVE the problem...it just teaches you to live with it.

IMHO not the way to go....

 

[MadMonkè]

not moving on is the problem.
letting go is the solution

having a thick skin... well... things just bounce off...
so its a tool?

Its been mentioned before... but I think its a skill that we can all try to practice more... especially regarding religion... *devil face*

 

[Lonesome Crow]

yes, it's a tool.

But not a single tool is gonna work on everything or in evrey situation.
Kind da like having a fucken screw driver when you need a wrench sometimes.

It's kind da like building calusses on my finger tips. I simply dont feel any pains
or anything after a while. Its the not feeling anything or numbness effects
that you gatta learn how to shift gears. Then you might be too insensitive
when you shouldnt be. So if you're like teflon..nothing sticks to teflon...even love too.

It's also kindda like walking around with a battle armoure on.
You kindda draw a fight or conflict to you. Getting defencesive all the time.
Or putting out a defencesive vibe. You're not playing the victim anymore but
you're still attracting a fight or conflitcs. Sometimes you'll push away people
that you shouldn't.

You can also try the FILTER or selective hearing methdoe

You can even try the being transparent methdoe...everything just gose through
or you go through fresken walls because your kind da like invisible.

Or be like water...like waves traveling around an island. Flexiable.

Or you can simply not figure none of the honeysuckle out becuase it's kindda
like fucken road kill on the road on a 100 mile journey.
Kind da like keeping your eyes on the prize , your final goals or destination.

or you can be like Jesus and walk on water. This way you dont sink.
in other words ...keep the world under your feet.
Dont sweat the small stuff...it's all small stuff.


This way you have a bag of differnent tools for dffernent applications or situations.
Kind da like having a swiss army pocket knife.

 

[MadMonkè]

umm... yeah.. that actually pretty motivational...

and I was feeling kinda closed just now because I am realizing that I have shut myself to people in my world.

But yeah... all that is road kill.. life is too fast.. opportunities come by at an instant and theres only 1 chance to make a take it.

LC, you are my jesus.
Einstein is my prophet.
totally obscure. yes I know...