Have you ever had a goldfish? Ever stick a finger on to the surface of the water to see your little dumb goldfish come kiss the tips of your finger thinking it's food?
I've always had an image like that to compare to whenever I thought there was love in a relationship. "Is something that I'm feeling from another person an empty action that's more him/her trying to fill an empty belly or hole? Or is it real love?"
That's the confusing part. And it's really hard to tell when you've found something more than desperate love. I think good love comes from healthy people and it's something that happens naturally.
So I've separated and distinguished two types of love and now to answer your question-
Desperate love, ones created in situations of need driven by subterranean desires that lead and coerce people by emotion feels horrific and energetically blissful at times. When psychological need for certain aspects of ones life isn't met (doting parent, self-respect, etc), I guess people seek to find that approval, peace, satisfaction through love and relationships. But that can give such an exhilarating rush when those neglected needs feel like they're being met by another person. But this is dangerous as you're trying to fit a square into a hole that's round. That might be done without either of the person's knowing and it'll lead to misunderstanding desperate signs like clingy-ness. This is when the relation feels horrific, suffocating (to either member: one gasping for breath thinking oxygen can only come from the other person & the other desperate to separate so they can breathe without the other trying to take every breath away).
There's the healthy love. Love that meets our natural desire to be understood, to relate, to share. It's the kind of love that makes you feel good to wake up in the morning. It's the kind of love that pops up into your head to reassure. It's the kind of love that makes the emotion of loneliness seem selfish (you don't feel lonely when you're alone and your thoughts are less consumed about "I feel this" "Why is this happening to ME" and self-centered thoughts as such). The healthy love gives you ideas, makes you expressive, makes you feel more creative. It inspires thoughts that will stimulate other people's minds rather than to depress thoughts. This love helps you look at yourself in a serious light. This love can make you feel like the center of the universe but it'll also make you feel like a part of it. Connected. Relating. Understanding.
just my thoughts.