What to do with my life?

[troubled]

Does anyone find it hard knowing what to do with their future?

I've dropped out of uni once before, and i'm in a position where I don't know what to study. If I had chosen the right subjects I would have done something like history or english at uni.. then found my way after that, but since i didn't i guess that is out of the window.

Not knowing what to do has left me isolated for what seems like forever. I just want to move on with my life?

 

[edgecrusher]

i too have absolutely no idea what to do with myself right now either. but i have kind of reached a point where this just isnt going to cut it for much longer. i feel like i am slipping away and i just dont know what to do.

 

[Luna]

Same here.
I have been out of high-school for several years and am still unsure as to where to go career-wise.
Right now I am just signing up for volunteer groups, and am hoping it will help me spark up some interest in a particular field one way or another.
Have you started looking around?
I think just testing the waters will hopefully give you some direction.

 

[Brian]

You gotta cut the apron strings at some point and be independent. Go out with the girl.

Volunteering and just general life experience is a good way to figure out what you enjoy. I learned a lot about how the world works simply by working on the brush crew I was with and having the associated experiences that accompanied the job.

As for college...I don't know about general studies degrees. I guess to me they seem like a waste for the most part. To me it seems like a better value to get something that qualifies you for a job at some level, like a tech degree, or one of the Sciences or This-or-That Management. Unless of course you just want to study History or English for the sake of learning.

 

[supra934]

I really dont think it matters. I'm just following the big salaries...maybe there is some happiness in that.

 

[TheWrathof_Jay]

i didnt even make it to uni, i got all the qualifications and dint go because i dont know what i want to do, i have just been working in this office for 18 months and things seem to be getting worse, i need the money to live so i cant stop working and the things i enjoy are are really hard to make money from and im not particularly skilled at them anyways. sometimes i enjoy working in the office but there are more days when i dont. i just keep soldiering on hoping that some great idea will come to me.

 

[jjam]

I'm in a similar position. I quit uni about 6 years ago, and I'll be 29 in a few months. I have job (fortunately), yet I am tired of it and really wish to move to something else. Feeling lost! I feel like I'm reaching for something, ANYTHING to unwarp my mind and lift my spirit. Happiness only surfaces briefly. Some things just give me a boost momentarily.

I bought a book which came in the mail yesterday. I plan to finish it in under a month. I've never been much of a book reader but I feel like this could help me somehow. The real motivation, I believe, cane from my observation of my vocabulary slipping. I doubt my spelling of words and speech more than ever before. I'm even lazier when posting at message boards than I used to be. All of my education just feels like it has gone to waste.

I've totally stopped exercising. I was making progress (not that I'm fat or anything), but it has been months since I was on that consistent routine. This happens every year, it seems.

Argh!

 

[QuietGuy]

It seems to me that helping other people is a good way to find a sense of purpose in your life.

Years ago, I was unemployed for quite a while, and I filled that time by visiting family friends and helping them with their computers (showing them how do to use their computer for new things, fixing problems, etc). It's a great feeling knowing that you're improving other people's lives in some way.

I know that many old people in retirement homes are very miserable because no-one comes to visit them, not even their family. Volunteering to spend a few hours just having friendly chats with these people would make a massive difference to their lonely lives, and you'd feel good about helping them too. Old people always have amazing experiences to share from their lives.

Just a couple of suggestions! Not really long-term career suggestions, I know, but maybe worth trying?

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I'm meant to be going away with my parents like we do each year, but i've got the chance to go to a festival with a girl I know. I'm pretty scared.. I feel so innocent and lost. I haven't really grown up.. i'm very close to my parents and their security.

I know exactly how you feel. But I'm slowly learning that some of the best experiences in life occur when you move out of your comfort zone, and into a completely new, unfamiliar and exciting experience.

Part of me would just prefer to sit in my room forever, all nice and safe and comfortable! But when I had to fly abroad on a business trip recently, I had the most wonderful time. It was waaaaay out of my comfort zone, and a little scary, but it was just wonderful!

So my advice is: go to the festival! It might be a little bit scary, but it'll really help you grow and mature, and I'm sure you'll have an awesome time too