Tealeaf
Well-known member
Idle thoughts, mostly.
I've been talking to a friend I made on a separate forum, and he's hinted at some pretty interesting stuff. He's an introvert who used to be very socially awkward when he was younger, but started working in retail and forcing himself to learn how to talk and work with people. Now he's in management and has a busy social life, with big birthday parties and trips to gaming tournaments with friends.
At the same time, he's mentioned fearing a lack of support, not having quite the kind of connections he wants, or not being good enough for it. Disillusioned with the way friendships work in the adult world versus the childhood imagination, he strikes me as someone who's still trying to surround himself with a different type of person. So, genuine connection and security is something that the socially successful can struggle with, too.
What I'm wondering is, might this be more of a character trait than a state of being? Something at the core instead of a number of friends, a love life, or a busy schedule? I've always associated these things with either not knowing how to talk to people or not having any people around (or the right kind).
I've been talking to a friend I made on a separate forum, and he's hinted at some pretty interesting stuff. He's an introvert who used to be very socially awkward when he was younger, but started working in retail and forcing himself to learn how to talk and work with people. Now he's in management and has a busy social life, with big birthday parties and trips to gaming tournaments with friends.
At the same time, he's mentioned fearing a lack of support, not having quite the kind of connections he wants, or not being good enough for it. Disillusioned with the way friendships work in the adult world versus the childhood imagination, he strikes me as someone who's still trying to surround himself with a different type of person. So, genuine connection and security is something that the socially successful can struggle with, too.
What I'm wondering is, might this be more of a character trait than a state of being? Something at the core instead of a number of friends, a love life, or a busy schedule? I've always associated these things with either not knowing how to talk to people or not having any people around (or the right kind).