first off, to answer your questions...
Q. I suffer from major social anxiety and am curious how many other people on here do too.
A. maybe i didn't realize it before, but i think i do too
Q. I'm shy to a fault and find it really hard to let my guard down and let people in, are you like that?
A. not so much shyness as going on past experiences that didn't go so well
Q. How does it affect your friendships and relationships?
A. friendships are few and far between (and those that exist are from a long time ago), (romantic) relationships are nonexistent
Q. What things do you not do because of your social anxiety?
A. live some life that it seems like i should be living (is that kind of getting at being someone else for a day thing?)
Q. And out of curiosity, who would you be if you could be someone else for a day *crosses fingers* pls don't say Paris Hilton or Ryan Seacrest! Big Grin
A. me having a better go of this whole life thing
so, getting to the heart of this whole thing (problem?), what does everyone think the real reason is behind it? that's to say, is it fear of rejection, fear of just being hurt, feelings of inadequacy, just seems futile, etc, so forth...?
i'm basing my (ok, i admit it) problem on experiences from past (and not so good present) relationships (as a generic all encompassing term). either it wasn't worth the effort, or it didn't go well and ended up doing (way) more damage than good. i've gotten to the point where i don't put in any effort at all anymore and, moreover, almost don't even desire to find the will to put in effort. if you're like me, even getting on here and talking is actually doing pretty well (that's to say, i'm looking for the will).
i should note real quick that i'm talking about relationships, not just dealing with people in general. i know some of you have a problem with both, but i can deal with people ok as acquaintances, just not really get at all close to them personally.
so, what does everyone think about the deep underlying cause? i read that emma said "out of 7 billion people...", anymore i feel the same way though. however, i know, and she probably does too, that it's silly to feel like that you can't connect with any of them on more than a superficial "nice weather we're having today" kind of level, or that if you do connect at all that it will work out as detrimental.