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Montreal Skye said:theraab said:If you think there is a perfect man or woman, who would you say it is?
I think it's very subjective to be honest. I don't compare people to others really. It's the feeling I get from someone. When a man is open, honest and communicative, makes me feel loved and cared for, wanted and needed...when he makes me feel very feminine, when I know I can count on him...I'd say that's my definition of a perfect man. Overall these qualities can be found in many people, but I think sometimes they lie dormant or hidden from shyness or fear.
I've heard a lot of folks talk about the perfect so and so, referring to perfection based on looks only, saying things like you have a choice between either a beauty or someone with a good personality or I'll never get a chance with another beautiful woman like that because she's "out of my league"...that bothers me because it's a common attitude and it perpetuates the feeling that one is never going to be good enough. I've even heard some people say they'd "settle" for a less attractive person if there was a possibility of love - that blows my mind. My last bf back in the day told me he wished I looked more like Elle MacPherson, but that I was "pretty enough I guess". It hurt me a lot back then, now though I would just brush it off and probably end things because I knew I'd never be good enough for his idea of perfection. I don't have hangups, well, maybe a few, we all do, when I start hearing people compare real people to airbrushed types, it makes me wonder what they're thinking, and how they came upon this thought