ThePsychologist
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So I have a girlfriend for the first time in my life, am 22 and we now have around 2 months.
Me and my girlfriend where in a discussion, about me holding back. I am holding back. In kissing her on the lips when I greet her (instead I just say "hey" without anything else), or kissing her goodbye (same thing as the greeting part).
During sex it's the same way. I'm thinking too much about her "boundaries". I'm not letting myself go fully, and she notices this. She finds this irritating.
Even though I want to do all those things, I'm not doing it, and it's causing some problems for the both of us.
Why am I doing this? I love her so much! I just wish I could show her how much I love her on a physical level aswel.
I think I'm just afraid of her rejecting me, which is stupid to think when we are in a relationship and have both accepted this.
So why am I holding back? Since she's my first girlfriend, I guess I have to get used to this, having to learn my natural impulses. I should not ignore those.
I'm gonna discuss this with her soon, maybe she can help out.
What do you guys think is happening?
Me and my girlfriend where in a discussion, about me holding back. I am holding back. In kissing her on the lips when I greet her (instead I just say "hey" without anything else), or kissing her goodbye (same thing as the greeting part).
During sex it's the same way. I'm thinking too much about her "boundaries". I'm not letting myself go fully, and she notices this. She finds this irritating.
Even though I want to do all those things, I'm not doing it, and it's causing some problems for the both of us.
Why am I doing this? I love her so much! I just wish I could show her how much I love her on a physical level aswel.
I think I'm just afraid of her rejecting me, which is stupid to think when we are in a relationship and have both accepted this.
So why am I holding back? Since she's my first girlfriend, I guess I have to get used to this, having to learn my natural impulses. I should not ignore those.
I'm gonna discuss this with her soon, maybe she can help out.
What do you guys think is happening?