Tealeaf said:Not sure about yours, but my employer doesn't have access to all things accessed and created on the Internet via my home network. Only what they can find through Googling the name on their records to find my Facebook and such.
Tealeaf said:If you're not careful you could be vulnerable to what's known as doxxing, which I've seen happen on forums in the past so that others could call in fake tips to their workplace, but employers cannot simply trace a forum name back to your real identity.
vng2015 said:Possibly -- but a good detective can find anything. That is the danger of cyberstalking.
Rodent said:Someone would have to be awfully interested in you to go that far though. Truth be told, I think the majority of people don't give a **** about others and so the whole cyberstalking business is far too cumbersome for them. The worst they can start up is a social network smear campaign full of baseless rumors. Pre-school bullshit. And you'd still have to give out your real name for this.
vng2015 said:Sometimes Internet conflicts evolve into stalking. Has not happened to me yet.
vng2015 said:More frequently stalking is a result of a failed relationship.
ardour said:This is why people use monikers for their blogs, instagram accounts, adjust their facebook profile names so don't appear in search results. It's seems like a pretty common sense thing not to give personal details out on a forum.
Mockery said:Thats why I don't use my real name and occupation for social websites anymore... I learned the hard way that you can't trust everyone that you meet online. That people aren't always what they appear to be. I had a really close friendship with a younger guy online a little while ago. His name was Red and he was from the Netherlands. He was cool at first and I felt like I could talk to him about anything. We would often stay up all night talking on skype.
vng2015 said:ardour said:This is why people use monikers for their blogs, instagram accounts, adjust their facebook profile names so don't appear in search results. It's seems like a pretty common sense thing not to give personal details out on a forum.
Neither do I -- but I give out too much information which can be used by any stalker. But then most people online give out too much information as well.
Mockery said:Thats why I don't use my real name and occupation for social websites anymore... I learned the hard way that you can't trust everyone that you meet online. That people aren't always what they appear to be. I had a really close friendship with a younger guy online a little while ago. His name was Red and he was from the Netherlands. He was cool at first and I felt like I could talk to him about anything. We would often stay up all night talking on skype.
I am sorry it happened.
Is it difficult to find Skype friends? Is it dangerous?
Mockery said:We met on a website called Haikyo.
Tealeaf said:Not sure about yours, but my employer doesn't have access to all things accessed and created on the Internet via my home network. Only what they can find through Googling the name on their records to find my Facebook and such (along with anything mentioned there). If you're not careful you could be vulnerable to what's known as doxxing, which I've seen happen on forums in the past so that others could call in fake tips to their workplace, but employers cannot simply trace a forum name back to your real identity.
vng2015 said:By sharing our problems online, we are sharing them with
-- Any future employer
-- Any future stalker
-- If we run for an office, then with our opponent
Who else?
vng2015 said:Mockery said:We met on a website called Haikyo.
Thank you. Can anyone teach me the art of making friends online?
SofiasMami said:Making friends online takes some time and effort, just like it does in real life. No one will knock on your door and say "Let's be friends". If you never reveal anything about yourself or take a chance and open up to some vulnerability, that's a recipe for loneliness.
vng2015 said:Unfortunately that is the case. For an Aspie, making friends is an order of magnitude more difficult.
TheRealCallie said:I know a lot of people with Asperger's, my son being one of them and they all have friends.
SofiasMami said:I lived in a small town. In small towns, everybody knows everybody's business, whether you want them to or not. So your above points apply in real life and pre-world wide web too, not just online.
I think the real question is how do you know when to self-disclose to acquaintances and casual friends? I think the rules are mostly the same online as in real life. Go with your gut and share things you might have in common with someone you're friendly with.
I don't make it a secret who I am here Some people even know my last name and address, thanks to the Christmas card exchange. Although I'm moving soon (sorry stalkers! ). As you may see, I've been around here awhile but only a select few get those bits of information.
Making friends online takes some time and effort, just like it does in real life. No one will knock on your door and say "Let's be friends". If you never reveal anything about yourself or take a chance and open up to some vulnerability, that's a recipe for loneliness.
-Teresa
Regumika said:SofiasMami said:I lived in a small town. In small towns, everybody knows everybody's business, whether you want them to or not. So your above points apply in real life and pre-world wide web too, not just online.
I think the real question is how do you know when to self-disclose to acquaintances and casual friends? I think the rules are mostly the same online as in real life. Go with your gut and share things you might have in common with someone you're friendly with.
I don't make it a secret who I am here Some people even know my last name and address, thanks to the Christmas card exchange. Although I'm moving soon (sorry stalkers! ). As you may see, I've been around here awhile but only a select few get those bits of information.
Making friends online takes some time and effort, just like it does in real life. No one will knock on your door and say "Let's be friends". If you never reveal anything about yourself or take a chance and open up to some vulnerability, that's a recipe for loneliness.
-Teresa
Teresa makes a great point, one which I have thought about too (people's worries). What is to prevent people in real life from stalking you? That doesn't stop you from going outside, does it? You go to the store, you run errands, you go to work/school/whatever. Internet isn't any different. The difference is the pool. Where in Teresa's town (just to throw a number out) if 1 in 1000 people is a stalker, then maybe only 1 person in her town would stalk (there are only 1000 people in the town). But with access to internet you would get more, but still only 1 in 1000 people.
How do you make friends? Listen and talk to people. Listen, and talk. You won't be able to make friends with everyone, but you don't need to be friends with everyone. A handful is plenty.
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