28yrs old in June, still live with parents, no job, no friends, is it all to late??

[misswonderwall]

Your a bit to harsh there guest, anyways I am not asking for sympathy at all, all Im asking is that I need alot of help and maybe some prayers.

NOOOOOO what was said was right!. grow up!!.

 

[michael in glasgow]

Hi Guest (I won't call you loser)

Right, you've had your ass kicking and we all need one at times. The only reason you got it is because other people, strangers to you, took the time to listen to you and give the best advice they had.

And it is good advice. You can have all the sympathy and prayers in the world but no-one is EVER going to come along and sort this out for you. You need to do it yourself. Nobody should live like you are. You are an adult and have to make your own changes. It can be done but it takes courage.

Asking for help is a start so here goes:

-Please, whatever you do, leave home. Find any sort of job to allow this. Your environment is unhealthy and will never provide what you need.

- Get your own six pack. They're free.

- Learn Urdu if you think it would help. That's free too.

- Consider taking an entry level job in your field of interest. You have an excellent degree in an area that most people could not manage. Very few people walk into the job they want. Lack of experience is a killer but it can be overcome. I have a Law degree but had over 50 rejections for jobs in call centres and security type work. Try not to take it too hard.

If you appear negative people will not want to work with you. Once I got my call centre job with a bank I got to know the people who recruited and within a year I was on their graduate programme. Promotion followed promotion. That wouldn't have happened if I hadn't taken a job that was, in some ways, "beneath" me.

- Don't be a sore loser. No-one likes that. Be happy to take part and enjoy that even when you don't win.

- Be more hedonistic. Cut loose, you have nothing to lose and it may make you someone people can relate to. Don't go wild though.

- Learn to swim. That's free too.

- Stop worrying about your penis size. You're a virgin and don't use porn. How can you be sure you're not average? Who are you comparing against?

- Get out of bed and do something. Write a to do list before you go to bed and make sure you follow it through.

- Nervous breakdowns happen. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

-Stop hating women. This is down to no-one but you.

- For God's sake stand up to your parents. You are a man, this is not natural. Talk to them, explain and, if you can't, leave.

Most importantly realise that this can start ending today. When you read this post turn you pc off and go and do something new.

No-one else will do this for you. That doesn't mean we don't want it to happen for you. I do at least.

Now go and do something useful

Good luck

Michael

 

[Guest]

Your a bit to harsh there guest, anyways I am not asking for sympathy at all, all Im asking is that I need alot of help and maybe some prayers.

NOOOOOO what was said was right!. grow up!!.

I never attacked you in the first place, stop harrassing me for no reason. ******* hell youse seek for people to help you, but you treat people with disrespect

YOur nothing but a bully in the first place that is why you are so lonely is becaue you dont know how to respect people. How do you expect others to respect you in the first place. If you harass me again online on the internet mrs wonderall I will take further actions, maybe take matters into court if I see one more harrassment from you.

 

[Guest]

Your a bit to harsh there guest, anyways I am not asking for sympathy at all, all Im asking is that I need alot of help and maybe some prayers.

NOOOOOO what was said was right!. grow up!!.

and what you said is considered harassment and bullying, either you grow up, or if you dont stop this cruelty, you will be punished severely, not by me, not by the moderators, you could be in jail, you could be arrested for this, you could be arrested just for bullying someone on the internet. I hope you realised that people have committed suicide due to cyber bullying. You harass one of our members again, and you will be punished severely by the police and the magistrates. If you were in Pakistan you wouldve gotten a serious beating, your nothing but a nuisance in these forums. Leave these poor ppl alone Miss wonderall.

Or else

Ill put you behind bars myself

 

[Harsh]

Your a bit to harsh there guest, anyways I am not asking for sympathy at all, all Im asking is that I need alot of help and maybe some prayers.

That original response was from me. With all the guests posting and losing track of who is who I will just call myself Harsh. I'm glad to see you're not calling yourself loser.

Michael thank you for pointing out that I was only trying to give needed advice. You are right, we all need our ass kicked sometimes. To Guest, I think you needed to hear that because you need someone or something to get you moving. I don't enjoy coming across as harsh, but it's only because I wished someone had gave me the ass kicking that I deserved a long time. I needed someone or something to get me up off my behind and get moving. I found it a lot easier to sit around and feel sorry for myself. Find things to make myself feel like even more of a loser and dwell on (like what you said you dwell on). All I was doing was continuing the cycle of hiding behind my wall, hiding myself from life. There's no way around it, life is difficult, life is cruel. If you don't care about yourself, or don't try to help yourself, no one else will. Everything starts with you. It's up to you to change. If anything I said made you think twice, then my harshness was worth it. I wished someone gave me a kick a long time, saving me years or lonliness, hiding and wallowing.

 

[(Loser)]

And ill be the one filing a complaint if I see anyone getting bullied or harrass in these forums or online again

 

[Mediocre]

I did. I lost track of who was who. I did read your post though Loser and just wanted to say that if youre not here to just play around and your post is actually all true that there are those of us who understand and who care.

 

[Guest]

I did. I lost track of who was who. I did read your post though Loser and just wanted to say that if youre not here to just play around and your post is actually all true that there are those of us who understand and who care.

This is absolutely disgusting how can you allow harrassment and bullying to happen in these forums your pure ignorance make me sick. This is not just pure disgusting.

 

[Mr Wonderall]

Oh grow up you little kid.

 

[Mediocre]

Oh ok it's just a troll then lol. Ooooh my bad then just thought it might be somebody actually going through all that.

Well ,,!,, to u then boy lol.

 

[misswonderwall]

Your a bit to harsh there guest, anyways I am not asking for sympathy at all, all Im asking is that I need alot of help and maybe some prayers.

NOOOOOO what was said was right!. grow up!!.

and what you said is considered harassment and bullying, either you grow up, or if you dont stop this cruelty, you will be punished severely, not by me, not by the moderators, you could be in jail, you could be arrested for this, you could be arrested just for bullying someone on the internet. I hope you realised that people have committed suicide due to cyber bullying. You harass one of our members again, and you will be punished severely by the police and the magistrates. If you were in Pakistan you wouldve gotten a serious beating, your nothing but a nuisance in these forums. Leave these poor ppl alone Miss wonderall.

Or else

Ill put you behind bars myself

Look im sorry if what i replied offended you.
I see that you do have some issues like pretty mcuh everyone on this sit, but isnt that just called being a human.

I think you should just grow and learn to just think more positive be greatfull that you are alive and you do have the power within you to change.

Anyway i do wish you luck, i didnt mean to attack you, just help.

 

[Guest]

Bud it's not too late... there are high school equivelancy tests where I live (canada) and I'm sure there are where you are. Pass high school, if your parents are wealthy (I just assume they are if they've supported you without pressuring you to get a job) maybe you should consider going to a university or college. You need to do something. Set a goal, and accomplish it. Don't live the life of a hermit, go play a sport or work out at the gym (also a good idea). Maybe learn an instrument? do you listen to music a lot? try out guitar. Get a job somewhere, you'll probably make friends with your co-workers.

Remember it's better to say something stupid to someone than never say anything. Get out there, lots of nice people who will like you no matter what but you need to find them. Go apply for jobs at a retail store, restaurant or maybe a fast food place. Check your local newspaper for job advertisements.

You STILL have an entire life to live, go for it.

 

[mimizu]

I wish happiness for all the lonely people out there...

 

[lonelygirl]

Hey guys,

Let's not let trolls get the best of us! We all are here to help and be helped. Mimi, I'm glad to see you and I hope to see you posting more often, we miss you!

 

[Lonely Boy from OZ]

Im just another quarter life loser (28 yrs old) still living with my parents in fact I always live with them, never had a job, has no friends (stopped making friends since I was 13), no support network apart from ol google, never had a girlfriend and if you havent guess by now i am still a virgin and most likely will never get married. Lately I realise that my entire existence has been a downward spiral ever since I was born. Everything i tell you is the truth.

I always tell myself I love solitude. Try to believe its better without friends, ive been hiding for just over 14 years now. I found a pot when I was 14, it was then I realised I disliked myself. I stopped going to school, never finished high school and certainly never had a college education. All I did to this day was stay at home and smoking pot was my life.

Only till I was 27 I realise that something was wrong with me as my clothes got darker and so did my mind. The only thing good this year (2007) is that I stopped smoking pot. But the depression got worse. I could only hide in the dark for so long, the year is 2007 and i still wasnt really going out of the house. But i was kinda positive and started to look at myself more, Sadly i still didnt go out much and that state of mind lasted for 6 months. I have been dead for too long. Now im bored, no confidence, no social skills and certainly my self esteem is so low. Ive never had a job, I know I have to make a change right now, but where do I start. I cant hide anymore. Im sick of being weak and alone, but i know i am the only one that can help myself. I dont know where to start.

I wanted to change and do something you know be happy and be successful one day.

My question is everything to late for me to start all over again and change things around at the old age of 27, is there any chance i will ever get a good job, be successful, get married and have children?? Is it still possible even though i never graduated from high school??

Please reply guys i really really need some help before its all too late.

Just going through some of the old post from Michael sounded as if I could have written it myself. Im 20 years old, still live with parents, no job , no friends, no gf, and I ask myself everyday if its all too late?

 

[nirmalya]

alex,
everbody in this world is not as happy you think from outside.
everdody is sad, depress from inside. i am also 28yrs still live with parents, no job, no friends and thought like you to kill myself or sucide, but i dont kill myself the reason behind is that i have to prove myself to this society,so i am alive but dont have any job.

if you want to give your views then my email is [email protected]

 

[Hijacc]

keep on trying dude.



I wish you luck.

 

[nirmalya]

Hey look at it this way: 30 is the new 20. I'm serious! People are taking a lot longer these days to grow up and to move out of their parent's house. Women and men are putting off marriage until their late 20's or even mid 30's. There's no need to panic. You have plenty of time to get your life going in the direction you'd like it to.

Number one congratulations on kicking the pot. I think daily smoking of pot would rob you of a lot of energy and desire to move forward with your life. So that explains a lot and you should not feel bad. You were caught in a bad place for a while. But you've put yourself through a hard time to get off it.

Think about what you want from life. I would suggest thinking about things you like to do or think you would like to do. If that is too much then start with things you hate. For example I hate math and science so I can rule out a lot of the current jobs in computers and the medical field. Second I hate authority so I can forget the military or police fields. Boom that's like 60 percent of jobs right there!

Come on register so we can send you PMs.

you have written good things thanks for your suggestion i am also in the same state as michael is.

 

[Bluey]

alex,
everbody in this world is not as happy you think from outside.
everdody is sad, depress from inside. i am also 28yrs still live with parents, no job, no friends and thought like you to kill myself or sucide, but i dont kill myself the reason behind is that i have to prove myself to this society,so i am alive but dont have any job.

if you want to give your views then my email is [email protected]

I do have one or two friends. I do have my own place. All though its just space to be alone in. I have been single all my adult life. with just the odd fling that leads to nothing serious.

Something inside tells me I well always be alone. For the past week this has been a difficult thing for me to handle. You know sometimes you just know something. well I know I well never live with anyone but me, myself and I. I also have no job and well never have a job as am phisacly not able to do a physically job and am mentally not got much going for me ether. Am not even feeling down as I type this. I have been feeling down but the bit of sun where having just now here is really helping me to feel better then I have been. I am just being honest in how I feel.

So what would most ppl do who know they well never be able to share there life with anyone and well never work? Apart form having a couple of friends who only wont to go to the pub and drink I have nothing and well never have anything moor then I have now. Sucks to be me huh. But ye we carry on regardless. Cos where to stubborn to see when where beaten or to chicken to do what we should be doing? ha, You tell me cos am all out of answers.

 

[Flood]

I'm responding really late to the OP and may not be read by this person but other ppl can maybe can find it useful.

Set goals and make that the focus of your life. When you fall into your negative/depressing thought pattern start thing about the status of the goal you are working to achieve and what doors that will open for you. In your case start with getting that GED. Then taking tests to start community colleges, then university degree, then a job, then a place of your own, then a girlfriend etc.. Keep looking forward, even if you can't see that far ahead.