Unacceptance said:
"I just feel that finding a girlfriend will help to solve my lonely and sad feelings." is the first line of his post, I was responding to that. He would be lucky to just deal with a broken heart, having his loot pilfered or getting stuck with some disease is statistically more possible. Being biased is a part of being human and I am not sure how that plays in here, my negative experiences are with humanity as a whole, not just women. It seems a little disillusioned and someone has to be that sobering dose of undesired reality.
I guess we all have different points of views as to just what he was saying.
Well i haven't mentioned anything about Your first reply to his post, so what You were responding in that post to doesn't really have anything to do with what i wrote to You.
Well, i don't really believe in statistics. If only 0.000001% of the population is to be statistically born with a certain disfunction, that doesn't make me fear that my first-born will suffer from it any smaller. If it can happen, it can happen to me. On the other hand, i don't see any reason to count myself in to statistics that go the other way either (95% of the population for example), since the fact that "most" people statistically are born with two eyes, for example, doesn't mean etc. etc. You get the point. Statistics doesn't mean anything to the single individual in my points of view since the statistics aren't relative to every persons life. They just count up a bunch of people and call it facts. A person who actually accommodates his/her life after what happens to most people, or what doesn't happen, is a lost one in my book, so i pretty much never bring stats up.
Well, since this guy obviously is asking for advice about something that he believes is something that is missing in his life, don't You think that it would be best for him to actually go through with it, find and get together with a woman, to find out about it all himself, rather than for someone to tell him that he should stop the search simply because of statistics when he's highly likely to end up at least as broken if he lived his life alone than if he found a girl whom stole his "loot" and gave him a decease? I've never even heard of anyone who got his/her things stolen from someone he/she dated. And condoms, if used properly, should keep him safe from STDs, if that's what You meant with that. Those are
my stats, which are
just as irrelevant for him as the stats that You've told him about since he neither is You, me, nor any of the other people who were part of the bunch who made up those statistics. He could get a rock from space flatten him tomorrow, or find a pot of gold under a painted rainbow on a wall. I don't think that he nor anyone else should neither worry nor wish for something that statistics say. That is what i meant with being unbiased here, and is something that i think is important for people asking for advice to receive.
Considering that You refer to Yourself as the dose of undesired reality, do You think that i simply tried to cheer him up by being the opposite? I always mean what i say, which i understand that neither You nor anyone else here might be aware of of course, but this guy has got a very good spirit about this considering that he apparently has battled horrible self-esteem in his life. I honestly think he appear very confident for having endured that upbringing, and think that it would be a big shame if he gave up now.
Of course, these are the words of a guy who found his soul-mate after all, so i guess that You and i have got quite a different story to tell this guy. While You advice him to avoid humanity to not be polluted by the potential risk that would be, i complement the genuine confidence i feel in him and advice him to try it out and see for himself instead. He might end up really happy. That's stats too (which doesn't mean crap to him.) Humans were supposed to live together, not alone. Besides, i haven't told him anything that was untrue or unnecessarily kind anyway, so i wouldn't consider myself as a light-bringer, rather than a guy who encourages listening to
Your own feelings to find things out for Yourself. Being unbiased.
Both my parents are very biased. They are entirely convinced that what happened to them in their lives will happen to me. What's the point of life if You have nothing that You want in it? Why end up as another old man/woman complaining about that You didn't take enough chances in life just because You were told to not try things out for Yourself? We only have one life, and i don't see why we shouldn't live the heck out of it. I'd rather have one year with my soul-mate than 100 years alone. Absolutely.