I have a friend, let's just say her name is Victoria. Me and Victoria basically met this guy named Ryan long time ago. That time me and Victoria both had a crush on him but I didn't tell Victoria I did , but she told me that she liked him.
From that day I didn't really want to get involved with both of them. Then I found out they started to date. Didn't really care at first but I still supported them.
Most of the time I usually ask Victoria or Ryan how their love life is going and they tell me. Sometimes when they have problems with eachother's relationships, I help them solve it. So basically i'm just like a third wheel I guess?
I looked at Ryan as a friend that time and I never in my mind would flirt with him or anything.
So after 8 months of them being together , One day Ryan was on her Facebook (yeah they know eachother's ..)
Ryan caught her flirting with another guy and he showed me the conversation. I know it's wrong going into someone's business but I have completely lost all Respect for Victoria . How can she do that after all the time Ryan and her were together?
Ryan then tells me "she's just with me because she doesn't want to hurt me by breaking up with me. " blah blah blah etc..
A few months passed .. Ryan then says he's falling in love with me?
I was in complete shock. I told him to stop catching feelings and to stop right away but he said he couldn't.
At first I didn't want to date him because he's my friend's ex and I wouldn't want her to hate me or anything
But I can't help it anymore.. I'm falling in love with him and it feels right..
Though there is another problem.. Even if I were to date him. I keep getting insecure and saying to myself "Victoria and Ryan probably had been through more than me and him will ever go through"
it hurts..
Can anybody help me or tell me what to do and how to stop feeling insecure and thinking of the past because I always go back to it..
From that day I didn't really want to get involved with both of them. Then I found out they started to date. Didn't really care at first but I still supported them.
Most of the time I usually ask Victoria or Ryan how their love life is going and they tell me. Sometimes when they have problems with eachother's relationships, I help them solve it. So basically i'm just like a third wheel I guess?
I looked at Ryan as a friend that time and I never in my mind would flirt with him or anything.
So after 8 months of them being together , One day Ryan was on her Facebook (yeah they know eachother's ..)
Ryan caught her flirting with another guy and he showed me the conversation. I know it's wrong going into someone's business but I have completely lost all Respect for Victoria . How can she do that after all the time Ryan and her were together?
Ryan then tells me "she's just with me because she doesn't want to hurt me by breaking up with me. " blah blah blah etc..
A few months passed .. Ryan then says he's falling in love with me?
I was in complete shock. I told him to stop catching feelings and to stop right away but he said he couldn't.
At first I didn't want to date him because he's my friend's ex and I wouldn't want her to hate me or anything
But I can't help it anymore.. I'm falling in love with him and it feels right..
Though there is another problem.. Even if I were to date him. I keep getting insecure and saying to myself "Victoria and Ryan probably had been through more than me and him will ever go through"
it hurts..
Can anybody help me or tell me what to do and how to stop feeling insecure and thinking of the past because I always go back to it..