cumulus.james
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The UK is a hostile place for single over 30's.
Discuss.
Discuss.
cumulus.james said:My statement above has nothing to do with victim mentality. The UK has been structured in such a fashion as to exclude those who are single this past decade. Options for interaction are more and more limited to the workplace in this age range.
cumulus.james said:Suicide is the no 1 killer of men in this country. Think on that, you have an epidemic of lonely/depressed men and no means to bring them together.
Hello all I'm new to the forum and a female Brit. 42 now but been single for nine years! I have issuescumulus.james said:The UK is a hostile place for single over 30's.
Discuss.
Veruca said:I don't think this applies exclusively to the UK, or males in the UK. The whole world is a hostile place to anyone who is alone. In fact, in some countries, women above a certain age who are unmarried are completely shunned by society. They aren't even allowed to attend family functions. Yet, they're not all committing suicide, so they must've figured out a way to look beyond their loneliness. Homeless people, homeless children whose loneliness I cannot even imagine, are still carrying on.
I think the problem is that people who are alone give up on themselves. The world will carry on as it does, and its up to us to make the most of it. Its always possible to be less alone. Volunteer, help those in need, do something that requires human interaction, and eventually you will form bonds. These relationships may not be the same as having deep, meaningful companionship, but its definitely better than nothing.
I'd love to know where you get your info from cumulus! You've been misled. In the UK life is what you make it and there are ample opportunities for interaction. At some point people have to take responsibility for their own life as opposed to blaming all around them.cumulus.james said:My statement above has nothing to do with victim mentality. The UK has been structured in such a fashion as to exclude those who are single this past decade. Options for interaction are more and more limited to the workplace in this age range.
Not only are options outside of one's home near non existent. But they are building 1 bedroom flats as though they are going out of fashion. Loneliness appears to be being built into the system more than anything.
Suicide is the no 1 killer of men in this country. Think on that, you have an epidemic of lonely/depressed men and no means to bring them together.
cumulus.james said:Suicide is the no 1 killer of men in this country. Think on that, you have an epidemic of lonely/depressed men and no means to bring them together.
Peaches said:My impression of the UK was that it's plagued by ageism, since the Mods in the 60ies? or even before, you need to be young young young (AND successful) to ever account to anything. This is of course very general, as I have met British folks who have the time of their lives over 50, but the "vibe" I get is that there is a huge pressure on being "young" (like you could be if you are not)
What does it even matter it don't mean that's how you will go!TheRealCallie said:cumulus.james said:Suicide is the no 1 killer of men in this country. Think on that, you have an epidemic of lonely/depressed men and no means to bring them together.
Actually, CANCER is the number 1 killer of men in the UK.
http://time.com/3908152/cancer-is-now-the-number-1-killer-of-men-in-the-uk/
Devon said:What does it even matter it don't mean that's how you will go!TheRealCallie said:cumulus.james said:Suicide is the no 1 killer of men in this country. Think on that, you have an epidemic of lonely/depressed men and no means to bring them together.
Actually, CANCER is the number 1 killer of men in the UK.
http://time.com/3908152/cancer-is-now-the-number-1-killer-of-men-in-the-uk/
I could break my neck on a racehorse tomorrow, so could my teen!
Statistics mean nothing. Its all blahdy blah nonsense.
Are you a pirate? cool
Devon said:I'd love to know where you get your info from cumulus! You've been misled. In the UK life is what you make it and there are ample opportunities for interaction. At some point people have to take responsibility for their own life as opposed to blaming all around them.cumulus.james said:My statement above has nothing to do with victim mentality. The UK has been structured in such a fashion as to exclude those who are single this past decade. Options for interaction are more and more limited to the workplace in this age range.
Not only are options outside of one's home near non existent. But they are building 1 bedroom flats as though they are going out of fashion. Loneliness appears to be being built into the system more than anything.
Suicide is the no 1 killer of men in this country. Think on that, you have an epidemic of lonely/depressed men and no means to bring them together.
You state that "options outside of one's home are near non existent" that's rather a sweeping unjustified statement don't you think?
And what's all this tosh about "building 1 bed flats like they are going out of fashion" ?
Personally I couldnt give a monkies what people choose to think, but at least get your facts straight before you spout garbage.
You consistently whinge about hostility but yet you invite it so beautifully.
I have chose to disagree with you, deal with it. Don't go chucking your toys out the pram and getting all huffy. Some things we will agree on and some things we will disagree on. That's life!
Its lovely to meet you
I feel a ban coming on already
It never takes me long
cumulus.james said:There is no mechanism to get to know anyone where you 1) Don't know anybody already 2) Do not work so have no 'reason' to be around people. If a 35 year old stands in a typical pub on their own in the home counties, no one is going to talk to them. Most the pubs have been closing anyway, apart from pubs what is there?
You tell me on place where a shy awkward 35 year old white atheist could go in London and make a friend?
I mention atheist because churches are not my thing. I mention my age because there are things for very old people, and for very young ones. I mention that I am white because I am well aware that the minorities have stronger communities than do white people. Round here, they would not spit on you if you were on fire.
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