Catharsis said:
Lonesome Crow said:
And certainly I will not take advice from people that
don't have any experince on such matters. Life is not trying to teach you anything...
That's just his less then subtle way of saying I'm a loser and don't know anything.
Everything that happens in life is teaching us something, the rest of his post goes on to say what? What he LEARNED from his relationships. I certainly wouldn't listen to hypocrits who contradict themselves just to put someone else down. Plus someone with a lot of failed relationships can only really teach us what went wrong. I fail to see how this counts as greater worthwhile experience.
I don't know the details of what kind of relationship you had, but if you broke someone's heart you deserve to know what it feels like on the other end and it is poetic justice for that to happen to you. If not, then life is still teaching you something.
I can imagine how the guy must've felt. Build up the courage to ask someone to marry them, and then not only do they refuse they end the entire relationship. I can only imagine how much of a mindfuck that would be.
But like I said I dont know the relationship. Maybe there were no hurt feelings and it was more of a casual thing. You asked why this is happening to you and I gave you my opinion, not the sugar coated falsehood someone less honest might say, but whatever I'm done with this thread. My advice, is as always, consider what life is teaching you from the experience.
Speak for yourself...
Now I ma speak for myself...
I know not to take advice from you...I didn't have to learn it.
The kingdom of heaven is inside of me.
Be a light to thy own two feet.
To thy ownself be true.
In other words...god created me with all the answers. It's inside of me.
God is inside of me. All the knowelge , wisdom, love is inside of me...It's call my intuition.
or jesus is in my heart...whatever your flavor.
Such as...I know when I love someone and don't.
Blumar was born and create as I AM.
She has all her answers inside of her....
So you're telling her...life is teaching her to feel fucken guilty and be Ashame? ( I'm not fucken suger coating this)
Errr...seem to me like you're the one who's putting her down...
You worte it...not me.
What the fresia dose she deserve?
Answer the fucken question. make it clear. do not divert.
You're twisting it to fit your delusions.
So you're saying a person should stay in a relationship just becuase
they invested time. You know a lot of people stay in relationships
for years just becuase of that and are very unhappy and depressed.
Even I did it....
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here's what my ex-wf wrote
I told you i have it black and white...
I am just trying to stay in place, not show my face....lying to myself...I am troubled by the signs I feel now...like if I think about him I cant breathe....I cant. I want to be with him, but right now its just not working out. I have to handle all this bullshit....so heres the question.........Do I stay with the man I have been married to for almost 20 years who has taken care of me and my girls...given me practically anything I wanted or do I go to the man who I have loved for 20 years and hope and pray things work out?????????? I am so confused....im so obsesses with this now I think of nothing else. I cant handle the pain of being in this house much longer, thank god its almost finished so I can sell. I dont know whats coming after that, but im sure my ass will be in college finishing my degree so I can have something for me!! I miss him telling me he loves me, asking me how things are going.....oh fresia I miss it all. Even though it was a phone that brought us together each night I miss it!!!!!! I am in a lonely house with a man who wants to watch his big ass tv and keep me hidden.....what do I do?????????????? Get high, yeah thats it!!!!!!!!!! out for now, maybe back later if I dont work on my painting.
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Chelle asked me out...It took a lot of love and courage on her part.
Chelle is a very attractive woman...she could of had any guys she wanted. Guys were hitting up on her all the time.
She went against the grain. It was nevered convient for her to love me.
Her parents hated me...just for the sake of hating me.
Poeple used to stair at her as if there was something wrong with her for loving me.
I'm asain and she's cucasian. 20 years ago way down south...that was tabooo. In the Bibble Belt...none the less.
In other words we were surround by biggotry and hatred...judgemental fuckheads.
In the misyt of all that hell...there was love, true love.