Some of us had awesome parents who really would love us no matter what. Some of us had abusive parents. Some of us just had mediocre parents. Some of us didn't even have someone to look to as a parental figure.
My two brothers were lucky- they have the kindest, sweetest, most loving mother in the whole world. She would always be on their side, they never argued. They had a ton in common, they could talk about anything together- all of their needs were always met to the very best of her ability, and they all looked after each other.
I, on the other hand, have a mother who never liked me very much. When I was seven years old, she would get so disgusted with that she'd refuse to even glance in my direction. I was always told that I was extremely selfish and mean and lazy and not lady-like enough, and I needed to change. No matter how hard I tried or how many different approaches I used, it all blew up in my face. It seemed that literally every other word I dared to speak in her presence risked getting me in some kind of huge trouble. Every word that came out of my mouth and every action I dared to perform was wrong in some way. And it wasn't because I was inherently just a failure and a letdown- no, she told me I could easily change all of that stuff if I wanted to, I just didn't because I was mean and wanted to hurt everyone.
Both those descriptions are of the same woman. Throughout my whole life, she's blatantly favored my brothers over me. I'm not talking "Oh boo hoo hoo, my brothers got all the cool toys and I didn't, she never came to my school play, she must not have loved me!". I mean I've been told to my face that I'm mean, selfish, lazy, have a lack of empathy, that my brothers are nicer than me, and even that she didn't care if I died. So basically, I know I'm the least favorite- family friends know I'm the least favorite, my brothers had ought to know I'm the least favorite.
I'm sorry for the long description, but I felt the need to lay down some background. Some parents have favorite and least favorite children, it's terrible, but that's the way it is. I'm not here to whine about my mom not liking me. What I actually wanted to say is, as heartbreaking as it is to know that you're the failure and the letdown and the disappointment, the part that really gets to me is that my mother has been pregnant a total of nine times- she only has three kids. The other six were miscarriages. And I feel like one of those kids should've made it instead of me. I've always thought that, if her other two children are so angelic and I'm a bad egg, maybe I was just the lone bad one in the batch and she got really unlucky. While I have a better relationship with my brothers than with my mother, it's still not great, and I feel like surely any of the other kids must've been a much better match for the family as a whole. I feel like I've stolen something from someone- like I stole the chance to live from my brothers and sisters who deserved it so much more than I did, and in doing so, stole the happiness that my family would've had by having one of them instead. I feel so guilty it brings me to tears. I'm born again Christian, I believe that they're all alive in Heaven, and I've prayed to God to ask them to forgive me. Do you guys think it's crazy to feel like this? If you're religious or otherwise believe in the afterlife, do you think they would be angry with me? I guess I probably sound like a nutjob, but I figure if I'm going to sound like a nutjob, the anonymity of the internet is the place to do so. In any case, thanks for reading my rant.
My two brothers were lucky- they have the kindest, sweetest, most loving mother in the whole world. She would always be on their side, they never argued. They had a ton in common, they could talk about anything together- all of their needs were always met to the very best of her ability, and they all looked after each other.
I, on the other hand, have a mother who never liked me very much. When I was seven years old, she would get so disgusted with that she'd refuse to even glance in my direction. I was always told that I was extremely selfish and mean and lazy and not lady-like enough, and I needed to change. No matter how hard I tried or how many different approaches I used, it all blew up in my face. It seemed that literally every other word I dared to speak in her presence risked getting me in some kind of huge trouble. Every word that came out of my mouth and every action I dared to perform was wrong in some way. And it wasn't because I was inherently just a failure and a letdown- no, she told me I could easily change all of that stuff if I wanted to, I just didn't because I was mean and wanted to hurt everyone.
Both those descriptions are of the same woman. Throughout my whole life, she's blatantly favored my brothers over me. I'm not talking "Oh boo hoo hoo, my brothers got all the cool toys and I didn't, she never came to my school play, she must not have loved me!". I mean I've been told to my face that I'm mean, selfish, lazy, have a lack of empathy, that my brothers are nicer than me, and even that she didn't care if I died. So basically, I know I'm the least favorite- family friends know I'm the least favorite, my brothers had ought to know I'm the least favorite.
I'm sorry for the long description, but I felt the need to lay down some background. Some parents have favorite and least favorite children, it's terrible, but that's the way it is. I'm not here to whine about my mom not liking me. What I actually wanted to say is, as heartbreaking as it is to know that you're the failure and the letdown and the disappointment, the part that really gets to me is that my mother has been pregnant a total of nine times- she only has three kids. The other six were miscarriages. And I feel like one of those kids should've made it instead of me. I've always thought that, if her other two children are so angelic and I'm a bad egg, maybe I was just the lone bad one in the batch and she got really unlucky. While I have a better relationship with my brothers than with my mother, it's still not great, and I feel like surely any of the other kids must've been a much better match for the family as a whole. I feel like I've stolen something from someone- like I stole the chance to live from my brothers and sisters who deserved it so much more than I did, and in doing so, stole the happiness that my family would've had by having one of them instead. I feel so guilty it brings me to tears. I'm born again Christian, I believe that they're all alive in Heaven, and I've prayed to God to ask them to forgive me. Do you guys think it's crazy to feel like this? If you're religious or otherwise believe in the afterlife, do you think they would be angry with me? I guess I probably sound like a nutjob, but I figure if I'm going to sound like a nutjob, the anonymity of the internet is the place to do so. In any case, thanks for reading my rant.