I actually just last week got a text message from an old friend, I've seen him probably no more then 10 to 20 times in the last 10 years, I reached out to him last year when I heared he was depressed (his parents told me in the supermarket), thing is that we took a very different path a long long time ago and lost touch because of that, back then he was going out and having fun, drinking himself to bits and doing all kinds of drugs, I was already an introvert and never wanted anything to do with any kind of hard drugs (soft drugs neither btw) and didn't drink at all.
After I reached out to him we met at my place, he had a carton of beercans in the back of his car and promptly emptied 2 half litre cans while we talked, turns out I couldn't help him because he wasn't depressed, he was mentally ill (or so I believe), he thought the government was out to kill him, the freemasons were out to recruit him, he was deneing any and all medical treatment (cancer
) because only weed would save him, just about every other conspiracy theory out there was impacting him someway.
After that hour orso I messaged him and told him I couldn't have him in my life (I'm messed up enough as it is), I always felt realy bad about this because I did reach out to him thinking I could help, he responded badly and blocked me, I actually felt reliefed... when he messaged me last week I didn't react, and I'm not going to either because I still can't have that sort of drama dragging me down into the hole I've spend almost 20years slowly climbing out off...
My point (yeah indeed, it's about time
), reaching out is good but make sure your reaching out to the right persons, and when someone reaches out to you... make sure you actually want to/can deal with that, sometimes you might need to make a difficult decission and say no.
Just thought i'd share
Mr.L