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I hate every inch of my body, but it has nothing to do with who I am as a person. As long as it remains a healthy body - at least for a long time - that's all that matters to me.
Why do you hate it ? You hate its appearance ?
 
All of it? How sad 😔should try only saying the good things about it and add a new thing daily 😇✨
I've been told my smile makes me look like a 'gentleman'.

(If there are any fans of 'Buffy the Vampire slayer' on here, they're going to find this funny...)
 
It's 2023. Women are smashing the patriarchy, or something like that.
...while there was never a greater number if them than right now, either ******* themselves with dildos on onlyfans for money, or posing in "artsy" pictures on instagram or whatever other platform.
It's all bs. They just haven't smelled their own honeysuckle yet. They still use their bodies to get what they want. 60+ years of Feminism and it's probably worse than it was before. Or at least we are more aware of it.
It's pathetic.
 
...while there was never a greater number if them than right now, either ******* themselves with dildos on onlyfans for money, or posing in "artsy" pictures on instagram or whatever other platform.
It's all bs. They just haven't smelled their own honeysuckle yet. They still use their bodies to get what they want. 60+ years of Feminism and it's probably worse than it was before. Or at least we are more aware of it.
It's pathetic.

I know you're gone, but yeah, I agree.

I always thought that feminism/female empowerment, was having women go into any career they want to do, that currently only men did, like having female pilots and scientists or something like that - not stuff like OnlyFans. That only seems to play back into gender stereotypes. It's going backwards if you ask me, devolving into the Darwin-verse.

I think we can blame Kim Kardashian for at least some of this. Like so many things, it probably isn't just her and her alone, it's probably attitudes in general changing, and if she hadn't done it someone else would have eventually, and probably sooner than later, but didn't people say that her sex tape was the thing that got people starting to talk about her? Stuff like that used to be scandalous, used to be a career-ender. It used to relegate you to that niche, and then you weren't really taken seriously outside of that ever again.

Nowadays, scandal is just publicity. In the new world, it's like almost any press is good press, because it gets people talking about you. Because of that, shame and modesty are all but gone, and trashy is mainstream now, because it gets attention, but at the same time, it's no longer shocking.

I joke about GWB, but at the rate we're going, one day, we may actually have a president who previously did do porn.
And I don't think that's a good thing.
 
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It's so confusing to me.

Growing up, I was taught "it's what's on the inside that counts".
I was taught to value personality over looks. That was the message I got at home and from society. Or at least that's what I thought.

I thought we were supposed to value someone's character, and the way they made us feel, over superficial things like what they look like, how much money and popularity/status they have (social status is to adults, what "popularity" was to kids/teens), what they are good at, what they can do for us, and things like that.

I also thought confidence was just, something you could decide. Just feeling good about yourself and who you are. Now it turns out, it's the result of knowing that you're strong at something. And no strength = no confidence.

Now I feel like I was psych'ed out. Now it's like, I feel like I was supposed to have worked on all that stuff I thought was taught was superficial/shallow, external, and immature, this whole time. There are a few things I like, and I'm friendly, but I have never really been impressive. And it turns out being impressive is what it's all about.

I just don't know if I can, because I don't know if I can do it if I'm not even a little bit good at it naturally in the first place, and also, I have a VERY late start.

The thing is I'm only interested in life, if I can have a good one. I'm not interested in accepting a sh*tty life. I'm not interested in giving up on relationships and resigning myself to singledom. I'm not interested in diverting my desire for a romantic relationship, towards something like TV/movies/music/video games, alcohol, weed, or even heroin. But I need to catch up on DECADES of self-development. And that's if I'm even genetically capable of it at all.

And I just don't know. I never felt like it before. But all I want to do is escape, or stop existing. I don't want to go on like this.
 
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Isn't sexy just something that you are, without trying hard. Now I don't mean you can't try improve your appearance with bit of makeup or cute clothes.

I think that when you dont try hard and just be yourself, people really find you attractive.
 
Isn't sexy just something that you are, without trying hard. Now I don't mean you can't try improve your appearance with bit of makeup or cute clothes.

I think that when you dont try hard and just be yourself, people really find you attractive.
Some people can be, some people cant be lol in my opinion anyway… for those without natural sex appeal theres methods and a art to seduction that leads to the most success, however, it doesn't work on everyone or for everyone.

Being yourself is important but… who are you? Are you no longer being yourself if you channel and study the art of seduction or are you only yourself when you do absolutely nothing?

Questions… questions… I like your thought process movinggirl! Nice to virtually meet cha.
 
Unfort. My fitness has decreased and fatness increased. My energy levels are low. Last few months I've been sedentary.
When I'm fit I'm sexy as hell.
 
I think feeling sexy is nowhere near as valuable as being sexy. And while you can feel as sexy as your mind allows you, that doesn't make you sexier
 
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Unfort. My fitness has decreased and fatness increased. My energy levels are low. Last few months I've been sedentary.
When I'm fit I'm sexy as hell.
I find this... the more I work out the more I can be sexy... maybe due to the confidence boost.

I think feeling sexy is nowhere near as valuable as being sexy. And while you can feel as sexy as your mind allows you, that doesn't make you sexier
But... how do you be it without feeling it? Wouldnt it just be awkward? Like I met this guy who had what it took to date one of my friends... and he ruined it looking at his shoes and being all shy.. all he needed to do.. was act like he didnt even like her, but no.. nooooo he ruined it. Mystery would have been sexy...
 
My fellas gonna ban me from this site 😂 he already assumed it was a dating site when he saw the name lmao
 

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