[font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]This would be my choice of what to work on. It's the exact mentality that makes you think you're behind everyone else by 10 years. [/font]
[font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]"I can't measure up with anybody. Think about anything positive regarding an individual and chances are either I don't have it and/or I can't do it."[/font]
[font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]"[size=small][font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]It’s how I see things: I’ll accept my self-worth when anyone accepts me, it’ll be my motivation to keep improving and searching"[/font][/font][/size]
[font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif][size=small][font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]"I can't help, but compare myself to EVERYBODY, including family, I hate anyone that has something I should also have too."[/font][/font][/size]
[font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif][size=small][font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif][size=small][font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]"I know these competitive feelings will only end when I get romantically acquainted, because, like I said, it'll prove that I'm worth a ****."[/font][/font][/size][/font][/size]
1. You don't have to measure up to anyone else.
[font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif][size=small][font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif][size=small][font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]2. That's not how it actually works. People can accept you all they or you want, but your feelings about yourself are under YOUR control, not theirs. You have to realize for yourself what your good qualities are. Sure it feels nice to get compliments, but if you don't believe them they aren't worth a ****.[/font][/font][/size][/font][/size]
[font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif][size=small][font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif][size=small][font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]3. You are not entitled to anything. Being resentful towards other people who you think are happier or better off than you doesn't help you at all.[/font][/font][/size][/font][/size]
[font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif][size=small][font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif][size=small][font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]4. Again, that's not how it works. What could end up happening, is you'll destroy every relationship you ever get into because of your insecurities and jealousy. You have to deal with your feelings, no one else can do it for you.[/font][/font][/size][/font][/size]
[font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif][size=small][font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif][size=small][font=Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]I'm not trying to pick on you. I used to feel this exact same way. Always behind everyone else, jealous that they probably had a good childhood and normal life experiences. Angry that whatever I tried to do, I thought everyone else was better at it. But eventually I realized that I'm the only one holding me back. That doesn't fix everything in itself. But it does help with a lot of those negative feelings. I felt completely alone when I finally realized that I was worth knowing, just as worthwhile as anyone else. And in hindsight, I bet there were people to felt the same jealousy towards me about some things. I just couldn't see my positive points because I was focused on all of the ways I felt I didn't measure up.[/font][/font][/size][/font][/size]